Have you ever been under a microscope?

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Have you ever really hit it off with an NT, only to have them dump you or grow decidedly distant for no known reason? Worse, have they expressed how fascinating they find autism?

That has happened with NTs, as well as other Aspies.

Tim

Yes, both. And both things are horrible. The first is a betrayal, but that's what you can expect from an NT. The second is scary, because they're probably not "fascinated" because they want you any good.

I wouldn't know. I can only experience it as an Aspie. And it hurts.

I don't think an NT would really fully be able to understand...

i don't know, i might be somewhat flattered if someone was interested in learning more about aspergers and how it affects me. Of course, i wouldn't share this with someone i didn't trust, and i would be offended if a random stranger wanted to interview me for a science project. but a friend or acquaintance who i chose to share information with, i think if they want to learn more or am fascinated it means they probably care about me or at least want to educate themselves and not be judgemental

I've experienced that a number of times, often enough that I've pretty much come to expect it. Almost everybody I've been around in my life has been normal, so I can't say whether this is something that wouldn't happen with an aspie. I haven't known about my own aspiehood long enough for the subject to have come up in those situations.

Your right that it hurts. I don't know of an appropriate response, or even if there is one. Life includes some painful experiences. Maybe that's all there is to say.

Yes, and it hurts very much. Are we Aspies more sensitive than other people I wonder? I see NTs fall out with each other and they seem to just be able to say 's*d it', brush it off and get on with their lives whilst I'm in bits for days...perhaps they just hide their hurt better.

Happens almost with every NT I encounter. If not all.

I have a friend from way back, who has borderline, we had pauses earlier, but that was because she was drinking, which she isn't anymore.

I met a new friend two years ago, I kept waiting for him to stop calling or not show up at meetings. He didn't. I now know he has ADHD and that's why we get along so well. I accept him and he accepts me.

I've had this happen, but I knew why. I was best friends with a kid who went to a Catholic school when we were in Middle School. We spent every day together. When he merged with my school and learned how wrong it was to associate with me, he never spoke to me again. Never. I learned a valuable lesson that day about social contexts and what founds human behavior. It was a good lesson to learn so early in life.

No I would'nt fit was my first literal response, oh dear.
Yes many of my friends have tried to psychologically evaluate me, needless to say it wsa not appreciated. They do not have the credentials to do this nor wisom or psychiatric experience, and how anyone can form an accurate view of me I have no idea. Most people assume I am bi-polar and anxious.

1) Ugh. Breakdown!
2) And they just don't stop pushing buttons...

I put every aspie I meet under the microscope, every time I can, it's a way of knowing myself I guess. I hope I've never hurt them, I really love my aspie brothers and sisters around the world.