infinitenull wrote:
I am somewhere on the spectrum sure... at the very least I share behaviors... but there isn't a definition for someone who just shares behaviors and some life experiences but seems to be operating comfortably (for now) in society...
The term BAP ("Broad Autism Phenotype") actually covers people who have some or all of the traits of Asperger's, but don't have a clinical level of impairment. You are certainly at least BAP with your test scores.
I wouldn't be at all surprised if you qualified for a diagnosis anyway. I have lower scores than you have on the various tests for AS, and I was diagnosed by a psychologist specialising in ASDs. Personally, I don't see any problem if you want to call yourself a self-diagnosed Aspie. You have the scores for it, and you know whether or not you have experienced significant difficulties during your life as a result of your Aspie-like traits. Given that autism is a spectrum, there is no specific "line in the sand" where people are Aspie on one side of it, and NT on the other. You have significantly Aspie traits - a diagnosis or a lack of diagnosis won't change that.