Confusing, misunderstandings and lack of understanding

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Hi all I need some advice and I'm hoping you guys can help out there. Its seems to be the friend issue here with me again that seems to be the issue in my life, constantly and the reason I put many a post on here about it I find all this so confusing. I yet again am having trouble with one of my friends who happens to be Aspergers and takes things to the extreme. I have been having people constantly ringing me and telling me their problems , their complaints and generally gossiping and backstabing others which mind you I am not interested in nor do I understand or have any idea on how to solve the particular problem or complaint and what is gossiping anyway . I due to my nature I don't like hurting anyones feelings I did'n't tell anyone until the other day due to having 15 phone calls in one day and 20 sms messages all day that I had, had enough I turned up at the disability agency and discussed the issue I had and to solve the issue before it got worse some people understood and were very understanding and discussed about friendship and how we should treat each other and about boundries and when we need time alone and when it should be appropiate time to ring someone and what to discuss in the phone call some did not understand at all and still continue to ring me constantly and sms message me. I wrote a sms message to everyone just saying the same thing I said the other day this morning and I made sure in the sms message that I said I am not being mean to anyone and I dont like hurting anyones feelings that I just need time on my own I never threatened anyone or called anyone names I sent this message to everyone. This one friend I sent that too who has Aspergers has totally taken what I had said totally the wrongway and has accused me of abusing her which I never did I sent the same message to everyone and is now abusing me and making nasty sarcastic comments on my facebook and ringing me up and abusing me and telling me to stay away from her and that its not her problem and that I should take it up with the disability agency and talk to the manager about it. The support workers from the disability agency taught me said that I should discuss the problem that I have with people with them and try and sort it out in a mature way and put what I have to say in such a way that it would not upset or hurt anyone in anyway I did what they told me too why did my friend take it such the wrongway now she is intending to goto the police about it why? I never meant in anyway to hurt her or upset her in anyway why did she take it such the wrongway literally. How do I solve this issue for its far too over my head to solve I thought I was doing the right thing. Now I've had to block her from facebook,, delete her mobile number, block that number so I can't get on going calls from her or anyone else for that matter and I also let the disability agency know what is going on I have also rung the disability agency Im with and said I will no longer be attending the disability agency anymore due to this friend of min who also attends the same disability agency.