almost where I could really just let it all out: aka WP

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infinitenull
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27 Jan 2012, 12:04 am

ever feel like you have this topic, or reply that might finally be meaningful to a group of people... but yet your experience in life and people saying "why does that matter" gets to you and you don't post?

How often do you think that you write out a post in its entirety... be it starting a thread or replying... that you delete, move on, don't say what you wanted to say...

is it common or is it rare?

sorry I guess this is my version of an insecure post lol


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27 Jan 2012, 12:15 am

I get stuck writing replies quite often here, and don't post a significant fraction of my attempts.

I don't recall anyone's told me that something didn't matter. I did have anxiety about my post about sense of humor, but it turned out okay.



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27 Jan 2012, 12:20 am

I have the opposite problem - I wish I put more thought into my posts, I wish I hesitated more.


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27 Jan 2012, 12:21 am

infinitenull,
I can't say for sure if it's Asperger's or Autistic (because I'm only 99.999% sure of my AS DX), but I do that all of the time.

Who knows, I might be deleting the good stuff. : P

I like your posts that I've read. 8)


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27 Jan 2012, 12:56 am

I do this a lot actually. I'll write out a full reply, but if I'm not satisfied with it after proofreading I'll delete it and won't post lol. I normally do this if I think my reply may in any way end up offending or upsetting someone, or just not be well-received in general. I'd say I probably only post 75% of the things I write.



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27 Jan 2012, 1:24 am

I almost always post what I think, whether I think people will care or not.

It's therapeutic.


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27 Jan 2012, 1:51 am

That's exactly what happens. The alternative is that I don't even bother typing out my thoughts, and I instead voice them to my cat. I hardly want to post this, because it seems quite obvious that other people do this too, and of course, I'm not adding much of anything to a discussion. Very insecure if I don't have a decent amount of substance to my posts. I don't know why other people make small posts merely to say "I agree" or something. The whole point of a forum is to discuss things, and if you merely post something that adds nothing to the discussion, and leave, it's just really unnecessary.



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27 Jan 2012, 8:32 am

Yeah, it could be caused by something else, but it is interesting to see that 5 out of 6 replies so far do at least similar. At least I know that I am not the only one throwing away a ton of text here!

Its a good thing that time is the only resource that is wasted in that case, otherwise I would become bothered about the waste. Instead I sort of move on lots of times. The funny thing is when I come back to a thread that I've replied to several times, and then I don't see my post and am like "wait! I thought I posted my reply to this one" then I have to laugh at myself


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27 Jan 2012, 8:46 am

A good proportion of what I start out writing here never gets posted. for all manner of reasons.

Sometimes I'll have second thoughts, in that I'm maybe revealing too much about myself.

Sometimes I reread and then realise I may be sounding quite mean or I am being an arse which then puts me off the whole endeavour.

Sometimes if its been a topic of high emotions then I rein in my urge to post and let things lie.

Sometimes I can't find an adequate way to express in words exactly how I feel, or what I want to say and so give up.

Occasionally I just bore myself (an indicator that I'll really bore the socks off anyone else) and abort my post.



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27 Jan 2012, 9:12 am

I think I've written a full reply, then decided not to post at all, twice this morning. Anyone who's used to my posts will realise that I've probably written an essay that went nowhere. Once I read it, it only seemed relevant to me and wouldn't be interesting for others to read, or so I thought anyway.


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27 Jan 2012, 9:25 am

Verdandi wrote:
I get stuck writing replies quite often here, and don't post a significant fraction of my attempts.

I don't recall anyone's told me that something didn't matter. I did have anxiety about my post about sense of humor, but it turned out okay.


It doesn't matter!

LOL! I had to do that. ;-)

I do like your posts though and think you have good things to say. I think you should post what you think. I may not agree but your posts are very good at addressing the topics!


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27 Jan 2012, 9:44 am

I began writing a reply, but deleted all of it.
So that's a yes.



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27 Jan 2012, 9:45 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
I get stuck writing replies quite often here, and don't post a significant fraction of my attempts.

I don't recall anyone's told me that something didn't matter. I did have anxiety about my post about sense of humor, but it turned out okay.


It doesn't matter!

LOL! I had to do that. ;-)

I do like your posts though and think you have good things to say. I think you should post what you think. I may not agree but your posts are very good at addressing the topics!


I recall we had a couple of intense disagreements, but never anything hostile. :D

I think most of what's in this thread is typical insecurity, and I suspect most people experience it. I recall a similar thread on an ADHD-related forum awhile back in which people gave similar answers.



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27 Jan 2012, 12:07 pm

Ive had more posts that Ive written out and not posted then written out and actually posted



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27 Jan 2012, 1:21 pm

Sure.. You should see my drafts folder in work, this speaks for itself.. I fluctuate between too short often abrasive messages or overly long wordy things, which take hours to get right.. Far too much mental energy goes into this process each day..

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29 Jan 2012, 7:01 pm

Verdandi wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
I get stuck writing replies quite often here, and don't post a significant fraction of my attempts.

I don't recall anyone's told me that something didn't matter. I did have anxiety about my post about sense of humor, but it turned out okay.


It doesn't matter!

LOL! I had to do that. ;-)

I do like your posts though and think you have good things to say. I think you should post what you think. I may not agree but your posts are very good at addressing the topics!


I recall we had a couple of intense disagreements, but never anything hostile. :D

I think most of what's in this thread is typical insecurity, and I suspect most people experience it. I recall a similar thread on an ADHD-related forum awhile back in which people gave similar answers.


I can see someone with ADHD doing so...

but do they compose a page long reply that went on and on about the topic only to realize that they ran on and on about something and....

wait I'll just post that rather than continuing and deleting later :)


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