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a few times when my parents went on holiday for a look after the house and cook for myself with no real problems..... its just that i find around my family i can lose my temper over small things and i do have a fear of being around other people at times because of me blowing up over small things.


i read on w i k i that most people with autism end up in some type of group home.

i am sure i do have autism so i am just a bit concerned that eventually that i will end up in some type of resident facility besides i just want to live an independent and happy life.

Don't believe what the experts say.

We're also supposed to be incapable of being responsible for others, having fulfilling relationships, being good parents-- and I'm doing all that stuff. So did my Dad.

Don't let anyone tell you what "autistics" are and are not capable of. Every autistic is different. Someone else's needs and limitations are not yours. If the "experts" can't understand that, they're stupid.

The autism spectrum is really wide and includes people at various levels of functioning. Many people on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum are able to live independently and don't need to live in group homes or with relatives. The group homes are just an option for those who need more support, but that doesn't mean that all autistic people end up in one of those.

If you were able to take care of yourself and the house while your parents were on holiday, then I don't see why you wouldn't be able to live on your own and have the independent life that you want.

Amik but what about me freaking out around other people?

You read that where? What is "w i k i?"

It's certainly not true, unless wherever you read that is talking ONLY about classic Autism. Most Autistics do not have classic Autism, and function well enough on their own to not end up in group homes.

Would that not be less of an issue if you lived on your own than it would be if you lived in a group home?

Its actually very difficult to get into a group home in the UK. The only reason I am in one is because my Mum made me legally homeless. If you want to live alone but people are concerned about whether you will be okay, there are care companies who just send someone along a couple times a week instead of constant company just to check if you are okay. I have also found that living with others is not something I particularly enjoy

I am in supported housing just outside London, 14 hours a week of support, otherwise I am pretty much left in the house (with two other people) to do what I want. I get monitoring by my mental health team too. And I go to university.

But the carers told me that this is a transition period. Once I am deemed by the mental health services to be independent enough to move out and go and live with my friend, I will be able to leave.

They said I may stay here for the remainder of my BSc Pharmacology course at university; which is another 3 years.

Anger Management therapy can help you with this to a certain degree. you don't have to react by freaking out, as you can change it to some degree. i'm not saying it's easy or automatic, but it's possible to stop freaking out as much (or as badly).

many people with autism have difficulty controlling themselves when they get emotional, but it doesn't make it impossible to improve. if you want to live independently, professional assistance with learning self-control can help you make it a reality.

in your life you will always have to deal with other people and there will be new triggers ad annoyances that can set you off - that is not going to change. but what CAN change to some degree is how you react.

What "flavor" of Autism have you been diagnosed with?
As someone just said, we are all different. Some start out fairly low-functioning, then become much higher in time. Don't believe everything you read, please.

Sincerely,
Matt

Mr XXX i think do have classic autism because i had a learning difficulties and a langauge delay

then again i can look after myself when my parents are away

Wikipedia, I suspect, that fount of all knowledge.

I couldn't live in a group home, I'd hate it to death and probably would live in a tent in the woods before living in a group home. One of my weird things is an insistence on self reliance, self sufficiency, etc.

But, as for me, everything is PERFECT when my family is away. I've had the same experience, I'm cooking awesome, for very cheap, feeling healthy, everything I want done is getting done, etc, when my family is away, then my family comes back, and it's just like "aww....." In some ways, a bit lonely, but you can just invite friends over

One of my counselors, while not a super expert in ASD, she seems to know more about it and have more relevant advice than any other "professional" I've talked to. She said the reason for this is, it takes more effort for me to understand people, I have to exert more brain power just when they're around me, to interpret them. So, being alone, I can think clearer, as it's not constantly trying to multitask with interpreting the other people around me. But yeah, the exact same experience, when I'm alone, I'm like PERFECT then my family comes back, and I feel like crap again.

I had the same prognosis of treatment awhile back. Originally, they specifically didn't wanna DX me Aspergers since it was a court eval, so they DXed me NVLD and various schizoid personality types. However, the treatment place said teenagers weren't even eligible for schizoid DXes, that and it was to teach really basic life skills, like, for example, cooking. For me however, I'm better at cooking than most people I know. I'm pretty much wonderful at any of the actual tasks of day to day life, I can repair most things, cook stuff, but just, being around other people trips me up like crazy, that and my "routines" changing, too, which is usually only caused by said other people.

My solution, I have to get a job and save up for a down payment on some land, or a cheap house in another state. Or at the very least, a crappy $400 a month apartment here is better than being in my house, because at the very least, I get to be alone.

I could never live in a group home. I like my independence and freedom too much.

I've only lived completely independently for 3 years looking back it was a complete disaster, but didn't seem so at the time. House was wrecked, I ended up owing tens of thousands and county court judgements.. and loads of motoring issues (all paperwork ones). Thankfully the housing bubble cleared the debts, so had a lucky escape.

Did I need round the clock care or a group home? Probably not.. But someone coming in a few hours a week for cleaning and checking I'd been dealing with bills, would have made a lot of difference.. Distancing yourself too far from your support network could be a bad idea..

Jason