dont let autism ruin ur life

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i have autism myself and ill admit now and then it gets to me when im stressed out or feeling down but deep inside i always fight against it to enjoy a normal life like anyone else i have the best girlfriend ever who i really love and makes me happy, i have loads of hobbies to keep me amused and most important friends who have the same thing so they can understand each others feelings and ill continue to enjoy life as it for the future i wont let this bring me down ill always stand on my own two feet

Self-advocacy is the best way. Learning as much as I can about AS and it's obstacles has provided me with the data I need to work around those obstacles and present as an eccentric Entie instead of a hopeless Aspie. Plus, I don't waste time whining about my condition, how the world is unfair, personal snubs, or any of the other useless topics that seem to obsess most Aspies.

It's some other people that ruin my life for me, not so much the actual AS. People make the AS make me feel bad. Like when people stare at me - it REALLY gets to me and offends me and makes me think I look ugly and fat and stupid or something. I know I can ignore them, and I do, but I still feel upset and apprehensive about it. I don't like knowing I stand out, even though I go out looking presentable and acting normal. And no, it's nothing to do with body posture. I don't have an odd posture anyways, but I see other people with odd postures anyway and they don't look weird.

It's good to develop interests that are solitary and require no others. That has made my life very bearable through the years.

And often I am having a lot of fun, also.

So it's their fault when you think that you look "... ugly and fat and stupid or something". Don't you own your thoughts?

I have no idea what a normal life is...normal for me would be a culture shock for some, my family is dysfunctional to an extreme...but I would say depression is more of a life ruiner for me. Yeah there are some issues with AS like I do not always enjoy sensory overload...florecent lights will litterally give me a headache but yeah those are all things are not that big of a deal for me....However I am severely depressed which can get in the way of hobbies not that I have too many hobbies at all but there are a few things I enjoy.

I don't really enjoy life as a whole and I kinda feel like I was brought down one to many times and have not climbed back up...but I do try to enjoy what I can.

Yes, but if people left me alone and stopped looking at me as though I'm ugly and stupid, then I will be able to have more room to feel better about myself. I go out with really trendy fashionable clothes on like the other girls so that I feel really nice, I don't desserve to be glared at. It makes me feel like I've done something wrong or look wrong or something, when all the time I try and try and try to look really nice. I don't even try to act normal because I do naturally act normal. I am aware enough to know what's going on around me and what ''acting normal'' is.

But what is a normal life? What may be normal to you may be weird to others and vice versa. A great example would be my life. Although I do get social interaction, I am alone most of the time and am fine with it. I do not have a TV because my computer provides what I need and I have enough interests to keep me busy. Most people would find my life to be very boring but I enjoy it.

The best thing an aspie can do is to live life they want to live and as long as how they want to live is legal, who should really care.

Well Autism gets in the way when it shows right through you wherever you go. Even though I'm good at covering up my AS, I'm still passed off as a ''weird NT person'' or, to older people, a ''quiet shy NT person''. It's a hinder when you need to get jobs and you've got the job centre pressurizing you on your right and employers turning you down on your left. Yes, I know NTs have the job centre pressurizing them and employers turning them down too, but I suffer from anxiety, and having lack of social skills becomes so bothersome when it comes to all this, and it's just so much more difficult. The average NT gets turned down for just genuine reasons, but I think I put employers off as soon as I walk into the interview room just by my body language and my stupidness that sticks on my face no matter how much I smile and act friendly.

GOD I HATE MYSELF!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

I feel pretty much the same way. I have no desire to spend the rest of my life on this planet living in misery. I think for a person with Aspergers, obtaining goals whether it be occupational, social, financial whatever they may be is more difficult to do but not impossible. The resources to help you are out there.

Joe90, I used to be where you're at now. Medication and therapy are helping, though. Last time somebody glared at me it had not effect whatsoever on me.

And, no, you can't own your own thoughts when people stoke your anxiety. The secret is to lessen the anxiety and to accept yourself. People will still try the same things but you'll just stop caring.

And people aren't just glaring at you. They do it to each other too. It's amazing how many people out there are wasting their time trying to stare each other down.

It took me many years to understand what "develop" meant. I thought that an interest was just there and I had no interests whatsoever.
Now I have many and they mostly involve overcoming my fears.

I agree with the OP. Autism is not a life sentence.

What makes you think they're glaring at you? What's the difference between just looking at you, and looking at you like you are ugly and stupid?

No one can make you think or feel anything without your cooperation.

And if they are actually glaring....all the blame should not be shifted onto the person who experiances the negative feelings because of it.

If they stare, just let them burn their eyes on you. Otherwise, people who don't like being looked at would be better off not being seen in the first place.