No Volume Control

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I shout, my voice is loud and I have no volume control and I hate it. People have been telling me my whole life to stop shouting, It is just that I have no idea I am doing it untill someone tells me. If I am in mid-special interest flow I find it a bit upsetting. When I was a kid the other children used to make fun of my voice too, which does not do a lot for your self estem (it is better than getting crap kicked out of you however) Anyone else here have the same issue? I have seen it come up on some of the aspie tests so it must be a thing....er is it?

I have the opposite issue sometimes, but I know for a fact that it is common for aspies/autists/whatever to have problems with volume control. I can get really loud when talking about an interest, though!

Have you ever had your hearing checked out?

I dunno. Maybe you shout all of the time because you can hear your own voice very well.

I'm a quiet talker.

But I have a couple of friends who are way too loud. They don't seem to realise. It's quite embarrassing. One is abrasive and opinionated at times too. Add loud to that and I understand why she has problems making friends.

rather the opposite here... have a fairly quiet, relaxed and monotone voice. tend to have to repeat things all too often in crowded/busy places.

have been wanting to learn a few tonal languages... though, have started to wonder how difficult it’ll be, if even possible without extensive help since cantonese chinese has 6(up to 9) different tones, thai has 5, and mandarin chinese has 4.

not that it cannot be raised... people often just seem to mistake the strained shift in unfamiliar volume as expressing irritation.

I have a weird, double-edged history with this. When I was a child, teenager and up into about my mid-twenties, I was deeply uncomfortable speaking to most anyone who was not my own family or family friends, and I went through years of alternating between selective mutism (around strangers and at school) and speaking fairly quietly.

When I was in my mid-20s I had long had an interest in psychology, believing I was a broken, odd person who just needed to find out how people are "supposed to behave" and then I could fix myself. I was born in the 1960s so diagnosis for Asperger's didn't even exist for me at the time -- I just knew I was a broken item that didn't seem to work the way other people work.

So part of "fixing myself" was to force myself to be more social, more verbal, less "shy" and less introverted. I pushed myself, but it's like I swung my pendulum too far the opposite way, because after passing through a quite well modulated phase, which were my best years, I think, I gradually became too loud when I spoke, and I began to realize I didn't seem to know how to modulate myself.

I still wrestle with this now, in fact in recent years if anything I think I've become louder, but I have a theory on why I'm doing that.

Lately in my life I feel I'm not heard, both literally and figuratively. I have this deep feeling that of all the people currently in my life now, nobody actually listens to me when I speak.

There is a culture of talking-over, cross talking, interrupting, where I live now, and I constantly feel like whatever I say truly is not being heard or cared about or listened to or given its turn to be part of the conversation. I think this is why I now tend to practically shout when I talk to someone. Deep down I don't feel like the person hears me even in the figurative sense of the word. Somehow in my instincts that translates to me thinking I need to talk louder (don't ask me why).

It also doesn't help that lately ALL my conversations take place outdoors, often with the roar of fast-moving traffic as a background!

I can't even hear myself think, let alone hear myself talk, and so I shout.

I long for the time when I got the volume just about right, and was hanging out with friends in quieter places such as my home or their home, and I actually had quite a relaxed volume then.

And I think I was able to maintain a normal volume during that time when I had people in my life I felt respected what I had to say, cared about me and seemed to actually listen to me and not interrupt me. I'm constantly interrupted these days and I don't feel surrounded by anyone who listens, now.

I've been told my voice is too loud as long as I can remember. I know that, as a child and teenager I had at least two hearing tests, both of which came back fine.

I'm totally chalking this up to Asperger's, since it's apparently fairly common among Aspies.

My sister has a loud voice too. My voice is quiet, but I get loud when I'm angry or upset. Everyone made fun of my voice when I was a kid because I talk weird. I have to repeat myself especially if there is a lot of noise around me.

MY WHOLE LIFE IN ONE POST!

all my life all i heard was "Shh theres no need to shout!" "lower your voice" "SHHHH NO ONE ELSE IS SHOUTING" "quiet Down" "no screaming" "Indoor voice" "everyone can hear you!"

When I was younger, I often got told I was too soft/quiet when speaking. Now I am too loud. In trying to correct the earlier softness, I've gone too far the other way. I can't seem to get it right.

I've noticed the more excited I get, the louder I get. I'm not sure how to fix this. I've been told by everyone I'm too loud, so I just keep to myself more often than not.

I'm forever being told that I speak too loudly. And I honestly don't realize I'm doing it. The stereotype of Aspie speech is speaking in a monotone, which I don't do, so I didn't think speech issues applied to me. Then I later found out that it can be volume control, which I've always had. It has nothing to do with hearing. I have excellent hearing. I just think that my perception of my own volume is distorted. The only people who tell me to be quiet are the ones who know about my Asperger's and know I can't help it, like my close friends and my mom. I think everybody else just thinks I'm loud for no reason or something.

Oh boy, I' ve been told I'm too loud ever since I was little. When I get really excited I tend to have no control of volume.

I have been told I'm too quiet, but I can be excitable when talking about a favorite subject.