i think i just messed things up..

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..for my sister. She's in the middle of getting a divorce & her evil husband came over to do some financial stuff & they started bickering. He starts acting like he's the victim here & she's in the wrong. With every barb i take a step closer. He gets louder & i slam the closet door shut with a thud. He says he's done everything to save this marriage & i laugh loudly in his face. He then says "This is why i didn't want to talk inside" & turns to go. i say "Good. Leave." i at least had the sense to hold the obscenities until he was out.
i couldn't stand listening to him lie like that. Its been almost 20 minutes & my heart rate hasn't gone down yet.

I understand that you wanted to help your sister---but I believe your sister might think that you were interfering, and that she could handle the guy herself.

I'm glad there wasn't some kid of physical fight.

I can think of worse ways to mess things up than what you did. You were just supporting your sister.

He is the victim of the divorce court bias towards females.

My presence there was because i thought he'd bully her less if i was there. That didn't work. If i didn't vent a little aggression when i did, it would've gotten physical very quickly. i had a collapsible steel baton in my back pocket that i was playing with the whole time. He could the grating sound of steel on steel while i glared steadily at him. Things should still be handled the way they used to be- if something happens to your sister or whoever, you teach the guilty party a lesson & the police don't interfere.
And Orangez, no, it hasn't gone to court yet. There isn't much that my sister could hit him for anyway. He verbally & emotionally abused my sister for years & drove up her debt buying $&%t for himself. He made my sister hate him & yet he tries to say that did all he could save the marriage!
Autistic people like me hate lies & especially hate bold-faced lying like that. i couldn't tolerate that.

Have you spoken to your sister about this?

I understand where you're coming from.

But the cops might not.

Cops have a way of making easy for themselves, should a physical fight occur, by arresting ALL participants in the fight, no questions asked.

As a post script to that, my sister thanked me over the weekend for laughing at him. No one said anything bad about my rash actions, so I guess it's ok. We'll see when he shows up again.
My parents will be going on vacation in a few weeks, though, and I fear what will happen if he shows up then. It wouldn't be hard for him to push me into full rage & without my dad around, no one will be able to stop me from hurting him. This just dawned on me yesterday & I haven't told anyone yet. I might just tell her she can't talk to him til they come back.

Glaring at someone, laughing ironically, and telling them to leave are all legal. As far as I can tell that's far less than what NT's seem to do to each other all the time. I mean this isn't exactly federal crime stuff.

Sounds like you didn't really do any harm.

I'd advise against carrying a telescopic baton, though. Chances are it's illegal... and also, if you can't control yourself, it will likely only ever get you into serious trouble - especially if you over react and strike someone in the head with it. They can easily be lethal. They can fracture a femur ffs. Carrying weapons, even for self defence, is not a good idea at all if you're not a highly controlled individual. If you must carry something, carry something non-lethal like bear spray.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

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