Getting drunk to help with social stuff....

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Ok I get social anxiety but I tend to find that drinking can help me past that (yes im tiddled now) as it makes me less shy....does anyone else find this.

However, it also lowers my inhibitions and that might not always be a good thing as it can lead to some pretty strange behaviour...anyone else find thioss

(yes im tiddled on vodka now)

The problem is then that i cannot socialise whether druink or not.....

Either wya the whole tihng goes tits up forme.

drunjk I just lose my inihibitions and end up looking like an idiot....sober i have inihbitions but still end up looking like an idiot.

It seems like a no win........

anyone else strugg;e whether drunk or sober?

I acnt make friends or find a lover...i give uo.

I feel hurt, i cant find a life patern and im lonelky but i dont want load of freidns (maybe one or tow realy intersting close ones) so im stuck....

any afvice?

Not too sure. I have much of the same issues. If I drink my emotions go unchecked and I look like a fool. Sober I retreat into my own thoughts and far too reserved. I think a lot of people look to it as a cure, well at least a temporary one. I do but with medical cannabis, it kinda helps but my nerd (science, interests) is left unhindered to carry on lengthy conversations that most people aren't interested in. Somewhere I'm sure there's a balance but I am unaware of it. I do have one friend. I've known him for 20 years. He has never called me out on my oddities. He befriended me so I'm not sure how to other than being myself I guess. Never been successful at it.

Sure. Drinking has been a social lubricant for centuries.

My advice - moderate. Dont blaze the bar and get plastered, alternate one drink with one water or coke.

Advice? If getting drunk doesn't help anything, don't get drunk!

I don't drink alcohol, but on many occasions have been rather tempted recently to see how it would affect my social difficulties - everyone I know seems to be less inhibited and more social when they drink.

Oddly I have mentioned to my psychiatrist on several occasions that I think I should start drinking ... after all everyone else does it ... and I get a resounded "Oh good grief, no! Don't do that!". Then I ask her if she drinks, she answers yes, and I'm wondering why it's OK for her and everyone else, but not for me ....

Drinking is "anxiolythic" as in lowers anxiety - thus solo drinking should be out. I have to learn this lesson myself.

If you never drink one beer can really hit you and if you always drink a bottle of vodka wont touch you.

A glass of red is probably the only "healthy" form of drinking. But don't judge your "drunk" levels for 30 mins after ending the drink. That can easy lead to office party embarrassment.

If I use it as a social lubricant I tend to drink too much too fast, because I'm already agitated. Then I make a fool of myself. And the next day my depression is worse and I feel sick.
'Course knowing this will not necessarily stop me. It does make things easier.

Pity you're not nearer me, OP, as we could drink into a stupor together.

I drink often - almost every day - and usually alone.

drinking is the prime social lubricant; i also use alcohol in my daily lives for this reason.
but it is a fine scale; too little and it doesn't help, too much and my sensory issues become too strong to remain in the situation.
the right balance is in a tolerance of about 1.5 standard unit of alcohol for me, so once i'm at that point, i must make moderation into an artform to stay just-so

I don't drink much in general.
I suppose if you are going to some have, moderation, as said, is the way to go. Alcohol is a double-edged sword re how you it can affect your social skills and competencies.

I personally think this is a horrible idea. There are a wealth of healthier things that can help you overcome social anxiety. Alcohol is poison and will lead you down a much darker path. It's also addictive. Drunk people smell like s**t. It shrinks the brain. Kills the liver. It's expensive.

But that's just my opinion and experience. Just be honest with yourself. You know what's right.