Self-critical

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I was just wondering if anyone else is very self-critical, I mean its good to have standards but it is annoying when these can't be achieved.

MAN, DO I!! !! It USED to be FAR worse. Still, if nobody ELSE has any hope of meeting my standards, why should I hold MYSELF to them?

Steve

My standards are too high for everything.. Ya, I dont even know anymore

Yeah, especially for schoolwork. I feel I have to ace every test, and that only average isn't ok.
Might have something to do with being a perfectionist.

when i was little i used to have suicidal feelings when i wasnt perfect.

now i just get really pissed off.

And my standards for myself is " it has to be perfect"

In the past, I was far more self-critical than I am these days. I was always verbally beating myself in order to have the needed punishment for not meeting my own standards. Like... speaking to people on a regular basis. Before I knew about Asperger's Syndrome, just figured it was my own laziness that stopped me from socializing. Not until November of 2004 did I realize that it wasn't my fault. Thereafter, I learned to stop punishing myself.

Like other characteristics, I've had to give this a lot of conscious thought,
because my natural tendency appears off balance.

Not quite a perfectioninst, but very high standards and ambitions once I've engaged with the idea that something actually needs doing (that.s a separate isssue)

It hits particulary with things like DIY and hobbies where the finished result, however praised by others, never matches my original mental concept.

Over the years I've given myself a lot of talkings to, and can now, as well as
"If a job's worth doing, it's worth doing well, " also countenance
"If a job's worth doing, itts worth dping badly."

The engineer's idea that if you do a better job than you need, it's wastefu,l has also been useful.

Used to be. Now, it doesn't have to be perfect everytime. 9 out of 10 times is good enough.

Yes, I am quite self-critical, though I have been trying to learn how not to be. It is something that has taken me a long time to learn and even longer to act upon.