Are your conversations "abnormal"?

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Would you say that your conversations and their content would be considered "abnormal"?

I, for example, can't relate to the fact that people always bring up random subjects (other people, art, music, etc) and share their feelings and opinions on them, which seems to account for 2/3 of all the conversations. I virtually never do that, and see it as rather goalless and silly, and for this reason, people seem to completely loose interest in talking to me in a few weeks.

I'm the annoying person who always bringing up random subjects, sorry.

Well, I imagine so. If I have a conversation, it goes one of two ways: fractured or endless.

The fractured happens when it's something I've no interest in...my responses will be one word or I'll nod my head to signal I'm still listening. If by some chance I started the conversation (very rare...but sometimes I feel so uncomfortable being alone with another person that I force myself to say something), it will end very quickly...I say "Man, I'm so tired" (my go to thing to say when I have no idea what else to say, haha), the other person says, "yeah, me too." End. These conversations are fractured or don't last because I don't know what to say and I literally have to summon energy to speak.

Now, when I'm interested in a topic, the person on the other end of the conversation will regret having ever brought it up. I will just talk, and talk, and talk. If something interrupts the conversation, I wait for a clear space, then resume on the exact word or phrase that I left off on (which throws people off often...sometimes the convo resumes an hour later). I won't stop talking until we part ways, or the other person very noticeably stops listening (like, turns away). I've tried holding back when I feel the need to talk about one of my interests, and it's incredibly uncomfortable...then I just end up bursting, and the topic comes out of nowhere.

I'd say that's 'abnormal.'

Yes. No. Wait, who told you?

They can be. When people start acting in ways I didn't anticipate, things can go abnormal very quickly.

I censor my responses 99% of the time, hold an internal monologue of what I might have said, could have said, and later, what I should have said, but my actual responses rarely reflect anything going on in my head. I have a hard time strategizing conversations on the spot.

One of my friends recently told me he intentionally avoids talking about plants/botany around me due to my propensity to rant continually about the topic.