Do people think you are paranoid....

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...By the way you talk? I ask "why" questions a lot and I get a lot of heat for it. I knew someone and they called me once and I called them back, but they never answered back so I decided to text them with "why did you call?" I guess it was a poor word choice because they turned around and acted like I was being paranoid and never called again. I don't understand it personally. I have a friend who told me that he was just "intellectually lazy" because he could not see beyond the surface of what I was asking. But it isn't the first time I have received heat for it...once I was even called a schizophrenic. However, lots of times I receive a sarcastic remark. Anyone else have this issue?

Yes, because I do the same. I can't tell if people are joking or not. So, I always ask them (Sometimes multiple times, cause it seems once you ask it makes it harder to read them. So, I must ask multiple times until either I or they give up.) and it annoys the crap out of them/makes them think I'm a loon. I try to most of the time to just not care, but it's hard.

Just because you may be paranoid, it does not mean that they are not out to get you.

I have a girl at work who sometimes receives the same crap...she asked "why are you laughing" and some people think she is being paranoid as if she thinks I am laughing at her, but I know what she means....she just wants in on the joke/story.

It frustrates me to no end...and to be honest it makes me super upset when people take me the wrong way....

Did you not read my post??? I never said I was paranoid...I just dont know!

Asking someone why they called did not imply I thought they were out to get me because if I truly thought that I wouldn't have called back. I thought they needed something or wanted to talk about something in particular. I even called after that but he got it stuck in his head that he shouldn't call.

I wish I didn't agree with this. There's a reason to be paranoid even if you're not aware of it. The reaction to the paranoia is what causes people to be put off.

I dont mean you are because I think people can sense if they feel paranoid.

Oh yeah. I also think people misuse the word paranoia so don't always take it literally. I've seen the words "overreacting and cares too much" in replace of paranoia.

When someone calls you paranoid just for asking why they called you, it only shows that they did have negative intentions. Why else would they assume that you thought it was about something bad, when you never said that you did?

Likewise, with the girl, being called paranoid simply for asking why people were laughing, it only shows that the person laughing assumed that she thought they were laughing at her. If they weren't actually doing it, there would be no reason for them to assume that she thought they were, when her simple question did not in any way imply that she thought that.

like reaction in what way?

Maybe...I mean the guy also threatened me and then when I reacted by removing him from Facebook...he said i was crazy. However, I really don't know why someone would threaten someone and not expect them to freak out. Anyways, it does not matter because he was the only person I have really had any problems with and he told me that (exact wording) "Its not my prerogative for you to understand, its just how you want to see it" , which does not make sense to me...

I don't really trust people anymore and considering how I've been treated for most of my life, my lack of trust is valid. I think people blow paranoia out of proportion sometimes to cover their own ass. People who have negative intentions and you know that you can't trust based on actions and their condescending fakeness are usually the first to attempt to cover their ass by claiming you are being paranoid when if you did the same exact thing the person is doing to you, they'd throw a hissy fit.

So on one hand if you are overly trusting you are naive. On the other hand if you figure out you can't trust someone you are paranoid even though you are not really paranoid as the person has proven the person is untrustworthy. There are some mean spirited people who just obey the program and fads. The current trend is narcissism. If that person is obeying that protocol then the chances of you being a different thinker and coming across people you can't trust are increased. Bullying is increased. The female version of bullying is emotional abuse, lying about you behind your back, smiling to your face but making sure you are an outcast.


Our society is promoting narcissistic behaviors, competitiveness in a way that someone must do whatever means necessary to make themselves look good even if that means making someone else out to be bad, lack of empathy in a caring manner and it's all about the money over human dignity.

Sorry but, I don't trust people anymore. Until someone actually treats me with respect and the same dignity that they do to their "real" friends, my trust for people is very low.

I need things to be clarified a lot, which leads to people thinking I don't trust them because I may think they mean something else. I often ask "What do you mean?" a lot. Maybe sometimes I am a bit paranoid, but that's because I've been hurt before and I can jump to conclusions.

Well I personally think it's rude when people don't know you but are bombarding you with personal questions that are none of their business. That is usually a sign you are dealing with someone who feels entitled and wants instant access which is also a sign the person will end up disrespectful. This is what I've noticed anyway and so far the same results but with my brain, even though it's happened time and time again, I have to see it actually play out to believe it.

Good news is, I no longer do that. I've accepted that my intuition was picking up on something and listen to it.

So if you meet someone who is bombarding you with personal questions, you can understand the person isn't very understanding of boundaries and will end up being a douche bag.

Thats a common phrase I use...especially with vague questions

IMO, anytime someone has accused me of being "Crazy" as a response to their unacceptable behavior, it tells me just who the crazy person really is....and it ain't me!

Yes. This is how people with negative intentions (someone listed this above) react when you react. They want you to react! It goes with bullying; the less you react and the more you blow it off or say something witty back, the easier it is to transition into another dialogue without people suspecting you of being a victim. When you react, they know you care and they take advantage of it and say something ignorant like "she must be paranoid". He now has control over you. Stop it!


I just reread everything you wrote in this thread, and it seems like you are a very caring person. A lot of people aren't! They say things that come to their mind without dwelling on the meaning or the consequence of their doing. A lot of people simply don't give a darn unless you're like them.

Well according to my sister last night I'm just paranoid.......I actually am not quite sure why she said that I think I was worried about something stupid.