feelings of superiority?

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I'm thinking this is probably an aspie thing. I feel like I am better, smarter, just all around superior to everyone around me. I think nt's are dumb, selfish, weird. I am simply better than everyone else. (: Anyone feel the same?

Same here^^ I just can't help it.

Maybe you are just narcissistic.

I feel like I'm superior to most of the people I go to school with when it comes to intelligence and other aspects. But I feel like a kid, which is not really a bad thing I guess.

maybe you are just surrounded by the wrong people. I know that i would feel the same way if i was stuck with people i despise, but its the opposite right now so i am more positively biased to the rest of society aswell.

I actually can understand this statement.

But I find it funny that there are some very illiterate, low class individuals I've met who I would hire to be my social voice..... They may be walking home and on food stamps, but they can rub people in a way I am incapable of doing. If I attempt what they can do I fail...

I suppose this would mean we all have our strengths and weaknesses.

It would only be narcissistic if it weren't true. If you have the data to back it up, then why worry about it?

I know I'm smarter than 95 to 99% of the people I meet. I have plenty of evidence to prove it as well, starting from professional IQ tests when I was a little kid, when they knew something was wrong but couldn't figure out what. They saw my high IQ score and decided that meant I was "OK", even though they put me through state testing because obviously I had teachers who thought I wasn't "OK"... they totally dropped the ball, but hey it was the early 80s.... I guess. Anyway, from that, basically every test I ever took put me way ahead of my age group. I dropped out of high school, got my GED and went to college early. Got 99th percentile on my GED score.

When I finished my B.A., I went ahead and took the GRE exam, and scored an excellent score. It wasn't anything record-setting, but then again, I hadn't studied for the exam even five minutes. And, I showed up to the testing center not having slept in about 36 hours. It was still a good enough score to qualify me for some very good grad schools. If it weren't for the realization my student loans were getting out of control, I would've gone on to grad school.

And.... I'm rambling... grr.

Like I said though - if you got it, flaunt it.

I have the exact opposite problem. I consistently underestimate my own abilities. I always suspect that those around me are smarter and more hard-working than me, and I'm always worried that I'm going to be found out as a "fraud". However, in my more coherent moments, I know that it isn't true.

The worst example was when I was doing my Honours year. I was absolutely convinced that I was not up to the task, and I spent the entire year freaking out and having avoidance issues. It was the worst year of my life. In the end, I ended up missing almost all of my lectures, and writing my thesis using a tiny fraction of the time that I was supposed to use for it. And it turned out fine! I did well in all my papers, and my thesis passed. So in the end, I realised that I must actually be a lot smarter than I thought, or else I wouldn't have been able to pull that off.

I had the same thing up until a few months ago. Its when you can actually compare the quality of your work you realize so many people just talk nonsense. Standards are different for everyone and i found out i have much higher (perfectionist) then the people who i would look up to at first because they bragged but ended up failing.

I don't feel better than people... I just think I could beat them all in a physical fight and most of them are stupid... It's hard to explain...

And how would you do against someone that was using that against you?

Really everyone is valid in they own way & excepting that no ability’s or skills is above another is a better way of thinking. Some things you will be bad at & some things the other will be. that’s why 2 people can make you hole & bind your skills to make you better. Same with putting the correct people together in a small team. I don't think I am just part of the equation.

I like your avatar; it's very Fantasy Islandish. All you need is a 'little person' and a plane.

This is the general idea of a logic loop I use to keep my ego in check if I start thinking I'm better than someone.

I am smarter than them, sure, but people have more worth than their intellect alone. What about this person in question is greater than the same traits in me? Are they kinder, more artistic, more social, wiser, more physically capable, more attractive, etc. Can I think of anything they have or do that I fail to compare with? (I almost always come up with something at this point.) And if I cannot think of anything, then I must not be as clever and intelligent as I thought I was to begin with.

I think I've found my twin. I could have wrote the above but things got so bad for me that I dropped out of college. I admire you for not bailing out like I did.

Oh and to answer the OP. Feeling that your are smarter than everyone around you is obviously ok if it's true. I don't think it's just an Aspie thing. Looking down on someone because they aren't as intelligent as you on the other hand isn't logical at all.

I can relate to both this and the OP. During middle school and the first half of high school I felt I'm smarter than most of the class and I'm less childish than some of them, and perhaps this was the reason why I made so little contact with them... As I got older I gradually realized I'm not smart enough, slow at many things, and I have to study more at home to learn the boring stuff they've taught at the Uni than most of my peers. In friendships and acquaintances I appeared more and more awkward and weird, and I mean not only socially, but my knowing of things also suffered in comparison. So my life transformed into a competition with myself to reach more academically and to acquire new knowledge that I thought would be useful in my life, mainly at work. I had to prove to myself and the world that I can. Now I have a Master's degree in economics and a relatively good job but still perform far below my potential and I'm a complete mess at relationships with the opposite gender, still no sign of having a family in the future near to 39. I feel like a failure. So what...