How do you deal with the fact everyone you know is a NT

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03 Apr 2012, 11:50 am

I'm just curious

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03 Apr 2012, 12:15 pm

I don't "deal" with it per se, it's just normal and a fact of life.

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03 Apr 2012, 12:42 pm

I've simply stopped knowing people. Of course I occasionally hand money or my insurance chipcard to some random Homo sapiens, but I don't really interact with them beyond that point, and I wouldn't greet or even recognize them in the streets.

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03 Apr 2012, 12:43 pm

How do you deal with the fact that the grass is green?

Its not something to be dealt with, it's just the way things are.

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03 Apr 2012, 12:46 pm

good point and how on earth do Nt's get along with me even though I'm an Aspie.

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03 Apr 2012, 12:49 pm

kill231 wrote:

good point and how on earth do Nt's get along with me even though I'm an Aspie.

Not all nonautistic people are radically different than people that have autism

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03 Apr 2012, 12:57 pm

Very good point I think it's because of how nice I am and the fact hardly anyone knows what autism and its variations really are.

Also you guys rule!

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03 Apr 2012, 1:28 pm

There's no 'dealing with it'; it just is.
There are NT introverts.. find some
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03 Apr 2012, 1:59 pm

That question was always in my mind when I was 15.

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03 Apr 2012, 2:14 pm

You learn to emulate their thinking. Side effect.. you can emulate any other thinking once you get out of the box

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03 Apr 2012, 2:17 pm

Keyman wrote:

You learn to emulate their thinking. Side effect.. you can emulate any other thinking once you get out of the box

In my case I tried to understand the 'rules' that they seemed to operate under even if I didn't personally 'get it'. I still listen to audiobooks at work that help me continue to grow my understanding of how NTs think. The latest book was pretty interesting - Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior by Ori and Rom Brafman. I understand that they're not really following 'rules' but that is how I digest it.

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03 Apr 2012, 2:31 pm

@jedaustin, So what are they "following" then?

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03 Apr 2012, 2:34 pm

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@jedaustin, So what are they "following" then?

If I were to guess it probably does have 'rules' but they absorb them unconsciously because they're more adept at mirroring others. I have to consciously think about it; they don't.

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03 Apr 2012, 2:45 pm

so basically NT's conversation skills they simply ''have'' them

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03 Apr 2012, 2:47 pm

kill231 wrote:

so basically NT's conversation skills they simply ''have'' them

Yes - though they did learn them. We can learn to be better at conversation with practice.

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03 Apr 2012, 3:05 pm

jedaustin wrote:

I have to consciously think about it; they don't.

I smell an exploit

Because if things happens unconsciously, you can also feed that channel with your engineered input

Anyone with ideas how to identify and understand this specific process?

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