S#!T Ignorant People Say To Autistics

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jinto1986
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23 Feb 2012, 1:09 pm

This video is fast becoming viral (was at a few 100 posts last night when I first saw it, now up over 5,700 posts) but I didn't see a link for it here so I thought I would post it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5fTBM_3s ... re=mh_lolz It really is funny for all the wrong reasons. I must admit I have heard at least 3/4 of these before, some from special education teachers and parents of autistic children... you know... the people who shouldn't be ignorant.

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23 Feb 2012, 1:16 pm

Ihear just about everything in that video every day.

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23 Feb 2012, 1:23 pm

"Being different, you get used to people's idiocy. Still beats the hell out of actually being an idiot."

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23 Feb 2012, 1:27 pm

I have heard many of the reactions and things that people say to me in that video-especially the "R" word.

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23 Feb 2012, 1:28 pm

How is handing a book of body language to us ignorant?

Some of them I viewed as curious questions and some I didn't find ignorant.

Really what is wrong with saying "I would have never guessed?" I suppose it's ignorant because they are ignorant for not even guessing autism. Or what is wrong with saying "I like you?" I see nothing ignorant about that. Is it so ignorant to like an autistic person? That is like saying it's ignorant to like an NT. I see nothing wrong with asking if someone has AS because it's a spectrum and you don't know anymore if people mean autism or Asperger's or PDD-NOS. Maybe that question was taken out of context perhaps but I think whoever asked that was wondering if their diagnoses was autism or Asperger's and instead it got interpreted into something else.

Yeah I posted this response on AFF too and left out the last line because I got my answer there. Just had to dummy this up for some folks. :wink:

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23 Feb 2012, 1:49 pm

One of my counselors told me the famous "Oh, you'll outgrow it."

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23 Feb 2012, 1:59 pm

League_Girl wrote:

1) People everywhere expect autism to be totally obvious, that is pretty ignorant.
2) The way it was in the movie implies that autistics shouldn't be liked.

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23 Feb 2012, 2:21 pm

League_Girl wrote:

I see nothing wrong with asking if someone has AS because it's a spectrum and you don't know anymore if people mean autism or Asperger's or PDD-NOS. Maybe that question was taken out of context perhaps but I think whoever asked that was wondering if their diagnoses was autism or Asperger's and instead it got interpreted into something else.

I've been asked before if I was really autistic or just had Asperger's. That's not at all what was being meant by the question when I was asked it. I was also told by the same person then that Asperger's doesn't include any of the problems that "real autistic" people deal with, because Asperger's is only being minorly socially awkward, not a real disability or anything.

I'll agree though that I don't see what's ignorant about handing us a book on body language.

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23 Feb 2012, 2:26 pm

Tuttle wrote:

League_Girl wrote:

It's something I would ask if I wanted to know what exact label they had. But I prefer to ask now what their diagnoses is, Autism, AS or PDD-NOS. Just so they know what I mean by the question when I say those three labels.

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23 Feb 2012, 2:33 pm

I don't make ignorant hateful comments, I make FRIENDS bay-behhh! When I'm out and about on the sidewalk going somewhere. I love making friends of all kinds going to my destination. IT ROCKS! But I usually am the one doing all the talking. xD

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23 Feb 2012, 2:33 pm

I agree with league_girl. Some of them I do not find shocking or insulting (I learned a lot from body language books or analysis). If people are ignorant, just tell them straight, you'll teach them something.

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23 Feb 2012, 2:42 pm

It also seems to be a crime to be ignorant and what I mean by that is not knowing about something so you ask and you still have committed a crime. :roll:

But yet if you don't bother asking and just assume, it's still a crime.

I don't understand people about why they get so offended when someone doesn't know a lot about something so they ask, especially when you try to see if you have any special skills or not or what your limitations are. It's like (gasp) curiosity has become a crime. Books don't tell everything about a person because we're all different. Oh no we are screwed. :roll: Murphy's Law everyone.

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23 Feb 2012, 2:46 pm

League_Girl wrote:

Tuttle wrote:

League_Girl wrote:

Asking which label is reasonable, but "autism or Asperger's?" is very different than "really autistic?" because it doesn't put us down as not having real problems.That's what I heard on that question "Oh, if you "only have Asperger's" then you're not allowed to make any claims about being autistic, because you don't actually know what its like to have the challenges they do". That's something I've heard, and actually one of the more hurtful things that people have said to me about my Asperger's, because they literally started telling me that with that diagnosis I couldn't possibly have challenges that are anything other than social.

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23 Feb 2012, 4:29 pm

I've gotten most of those remarks. Especially the infamous 'but you're too high functioning to have autism'. It's like people think everyone with autism is intellectually challenged. :-I

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23 Feb 2012, 4:41 pm

The worst thing is being told to just "put up" with overloaded senses, "like everybody else".

If only everybody else did have to put up with that... Imagine how peaceful everything would be.

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23 Feb 2012, 4:47 pm

Madao wrote:

I've gotten most of those remarks. Especially the infamous 'but you're too high functioning to have autism'. It's like people think everyone with autism is intellectually challenged. :-I

LOL, Your comment made my day. I don't understand why people can't do some research instead of taking everything they hear as true.

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