Aspies what would you do?

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We are at a drive through ATM and I am making a deposit. You are in the passengers seat. I get out my bag and hand you the cash . I put in my card and do the code and get the card back...then I hand it to you with out looking your way..I type in somthing else into the ATM then put my hand out twords you with out saying anything...what do you hand me

Situation two: Your friend leaves the room and leaves their phone next to you while they get somthing out of the basement....the phone rings and it's work.... If you try to run it too them you will probaly get there too late and this is an important call.....do you answer it(if you answer it they will confuse you for your friend) let it ring or run it to them

Nothing, I'm out of the car and a block or two away with the bag of money!

Seriously though ... they've handed you the card so they didn't need it next, or they'd still be holding it. So they must want the cash so they can deposit, now that they're done with the card for the time being. But it's very strange behaviour, making a deposit isn't a two-man job that needs a work crew to accomplish.



It's probably got a messaging service or answering machine, so I'll let that pick up and tell them work called when they're back.

Last edited by edgewaters on 26 May 2012, 2:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Situation one: Well, I am confused about why you are handing me cash and your card so I would probably ask you why you are handing the stuff to me.

Situation two: I might yell at my friend and ask them if they want me to answer it.

I R notice that many people appear to consider what I consider as one-person tasks as two- or multi-person tasks.

I'd wait for you to tell me what you wanted. Or ask, if your hand was insistent enough.



Let it ring. No question. If they were waiting for a call that was that important, they could have brought the phone with them, couldn't they? I do not answer other people's phones. I only answer mine when I figure I can't get out of it...

Is this a trick question?

Yes, that's true! Let the "How many NTs does it take to ..." jokes begin!

(no, not really, but still ...)

1 Id ask you what you wanted.

2 Let it ring and tell them their phone rang when they come back.

Situation 1: Hand them the money; if they needed the card still they would still be holding it. I don't understand how this transaction requires my assistance, however, and I wouldn't do my banking that way.

Situation 2: Let it ring. I never answer any phone but my own even if asked unless there is a very good reason and I've never heard one.

#1, probably the cash back, and where is the envelope to put the cash in?

#2, let it ring and tell them later. I've never answered other people's phones without them telling me it's OK first

Upon think about this, these are trick situations resembling a theory of mind test. Because how can I assume to know the intentions, implications of these events when they're not specified in a context between individuals? Such as, "We're at a drive through ATM and I tell you I'm making a deposit" and "the phone rings and it's work.... If you try to run it too them you will probaly get there too late and your friend informed you they're expecting an important call. Situation one doesn't explicitly say you told me about your intentions to deposit, I have to assume you were by you giving me cash to hang on to first. Situation two doesn't tell me the friend informed me they're waiting for a important call from work. The importance itself would have to be an assumption.

So in both situations:

1. I'd still assume you'd want the money and inquire how if that's the case and how much? Because there would be no reason for you to take the money out at all otherwise, as cards are separate from cash usually in wallets.

2. Let it ring out and inform them afterwards, because how would I know it's the important workplace call to begin with? No sense of urgency to inform them as they can easily call them back in a matter of seconds anyway.

Excellent post. I couldn't have said it better. Also, as a general rule, I never answer people's phones. It is not a big deal to call back.

I would hand you the ka-ching.

I leave it to ring; I would never answer another person's phone.

I ask you why do I have the cash. Is it for me to keep. I assume you hand me the card for me to hold for you. I hand you the card back. If you told me the cash was for me to hold for you, I would also hand them back too.




I would let it ring and not answer it. I would tell them their phone rang when they come back upstairs.

So true. It seems that the more people that become involved in a task, the more complicated it becomes. It's better to take out the cash when you need it than to have a whole interaction with someone just to do the same thing.

However, if someone handed me something I would take it and try and figure out what they're doing.

The phone I would ignore - everyone gets messages, or missed call lists.

1. In a simmilar situation like that before I've given both items back. I'd probably either give you the money or give you the card and the money (everything of yours unless you said "only...") - that's what I usually do is simmilar situations.

2. I wouldn't necessarily have known that the phone would have stopped ringing so I would have come running down shouting "phone!" to get your attention - that's what I normally do.

What's the 'correct' answers?