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I tend too get angry over silly things... its annoying cause at home my parents can read my like an open book and when i am in a sh***y mood they start giving me a bit of an attitude. its like i have not go the cues too get through these types of situations or i am really poor at hiding how i feel. my friends however don't do this too me evne when i am in a bad mood. most of hte time at home i am in a bad mood.


really i am not trying too play the 'poor me little me victim act' but when i am not in a good mood my parents do try and provoke me in a way too lose my temper and lash out. my parents could simply just mind there own buissness but there insistent on trying too make have an agressive outburst. it really is just a vicious cycle which happens virtually everyday in my household. my brother on the other hand even when i am in a bad mood just minds his own buissness and does not bother me. i know they are my parents and they are only concerned about me but still they could just try and treat me normally even when i am not in a happy mood. there is usually no violence but i do shout a lot when my parents start getting on my case.

if my parents start getting funny twoards me would it be best just too walk away or keep quiet? am i doing something in terms of body language which is a dead give away too my parents (my dad inparticular). This is why i would find it hard too live with people.

Could you give a specific example of something they might say or do?

my dad for example might get close too me and raise his voice saying "are you alright" in an agressive kind of tone or just in general give me funny stares. And my mum might keep giving me concerned looks all the time which is completely normal cause thats what mothers do. Overall its my father who causes me the most problems not really my mother per say.


is stupid really because when i can tell someone is in a bad mood i try and stay out of there way as best as possible or don't talk too them as much. my brother is easy too deal with casue he just puts his head down and minds his own buissness. my dad however instead trying too stay out of my way and avoid talking too me add fuel too the fire by getting in my face when i am in a agressive mood. what my father does not understand is by doing this there creating making into a more bad ill tempered person but of course its up too me too walk when provoked as well. maybe my dad enjoys playing mind games or something?

When my Aspie daughter was little and she got angry (which was veru often), my Aspie husband used to make funny and/or angry faces to her to make her laugh. When she started laughing she stopped being mad. Now that she 12 years-old, he continues doing that, just that it does not work anymore. It just makes her more angry. They usually end up having fight about it. But he does not stop. He continues doing the same thing even knowing it does not work anymore. It is like if he thinks somehow, magically, time will go back and it will work again. Might be something like that going on with your dad? Might he be trying to help you (stop being mad) in the wrong way? I think the best approach would be talking to him calmly about how what he does affects you, and asking him to change his approach. I think it might even work.