How often do you get bullied?

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If you don't mind saying, in what forms does it come and how often?

And have you ever seen someone who seems to be an even easier target than you and yet the bully comes for you? Tell do.

I'm good at standing my ground because I'm a 6 foot 3 9th grader and slightly intimidating. People bully me about my disorder and assume I'm stupid. I often get bullied about my hobbies which is mostly Rubik's cubes. I respond violently and ALWAYS win. I guess I'm a harder target for bullies because they fear my revolt.

It depends what you mean.

School: I was assaulted and intimidated couple of times on the train journeys to and from school by school kids. For example, just because I'd travel alone, they'd creep up to where I was sitting and whack a bag of crisps on my head and all in my hair and say "But your hair looks nice like that" or sh*t like that. I gotten lots of comments at school about the way I chose to present myself. I'm a very 'non-conforming' person, so I guess people didn't like that. "Omg! Look at her shoes!" "Look at her clothes!" "You need a makeover". And I also was an easy target because I must have projected vulnerability. I did have friends, but when they weren't in my class I'd be sitting all alone... sometimes with a whole row or table with just me on it, and sometimes other kids would do things like throw stuff at me, say nasty things to me or sit down around me and intimidate or mock me and copy all my work.

Family: I'm not sure if this is bullying or not. Most people's siblings pick on them, but sometimes they can go a little bit too far and it isn't very funny. Just a few weeks ago my sister decided to mention my possible AS in a room full of family and say things like "So what are you going to do with these 'arse burgers' ?" "Are you a nutter?" And everyone joined in and laughed. I really do try to laugh things off, but some things hit sensitive spots and I had to bite my lip and fight back any emotion. It makes me scared of how ignorant they could be if/when I divulge some other personal things about me in the future (e.g. my sexuality and people in my personal life)

Strangers: I've had strangers make remarks about me before. Nasty ones. Dealing with that can make you very paranoid and unable to trust people. These days when I hear people giggling and lowering their voices I immediately have to check and see if they look over at me.

Work: I have yet to start work, but the way I'm treated is one of the main things that worries me. I don't want an awkward working environment that makes me end up resenting my job and I don't want to work alongside narrow-minded people who judge me without attempting to break the ice.

Overall, I think experiences like these end up really damaging a person. Trust is a problem for me, and so is paranoia. And it can build up so much hate and anger, even over things that happened years ago.

Yes, I have been bullied my whole life. I have never been afraid to answer questions in class, and I think i was maybe perceived as a "know it all" or "teacher's pet". I remember this specific time where we were doing some sort of activity where we would answer a personal question, write it down on some paper, stand in a circle, fold it up and throw it in the middle of the classroom. then we would pick up another classmates paper, and read it to the class.

There were some Jocks in my class who would always make fun of me answering questions in class, and even accused me of being gay. Instead of throwing their sheets of paper in the circle, they crumpled them up and threw them at me and laughed. I felt very depressed after this and it only made me more confused and wary of other people. This was also a time before i was diagnosed with Aspergers, so I had no idea why i had so much trouble communicating with people.

To answer your question, I'm not sure how and why bullies pick specific people. in my case i would guess that they were jealous or threatend by my high IQ and the fact that I would rather talk to the teacher than my classmates. Now that i'm in college, all of this works to my advantage!

Cool username btw, I'm also a SK fan! isn't Captain Tripps the nickname of the superflu in The Stand?

It was similar for me in school.

I was 6 ft tall by the time I was 12 years old. I was thin, but not small..

What really helped was my mom (who grew up as a redhead/outcast in the 60's and 70's) telling me to just stand up to anyone, fight if I have to, do the best I can, and they will think twice about ever messing with me again.. This actually worked pretty well. In fact, just standing up to bullies at all deters them; at least for me, it worked..

I think, also, it's a matter of retaliation. I never really retaliated, so I guess that's why people would continue being horrible. If you're all alone and you look and act vulnerable with no understanding of how to stand up for yourself... then it's so easy for them to go for you. Also, what kind of person you are. Anything different to their ignorant world and it's something they decide to make fun of.... out of boredom, to look good in front of their friends, to make them feel better about themselves, etc. It's always in numbers, too. Someone is much more likely to speak up and hurl insults at you when they're in a big group... to show off or whatever. They only really do it in that situation because if you ever were to retaliate you'd be seriously outnumbered. So, basically, they're lowlife wimps.

Yeah, and also a nick name of Jerry Garcia, but I got it from the novel.

I remember a few times when people said some things that really upset me, but luckily I was never really bullied. I am positive this is because I went to private Christian and Catholic schools from preschool through 12th grade where they pretty much didn't let it happen. Now I'm in college and I just keep to myself and other people leave me alone.

I do remember once when I was in the 2nd grade (I think) these older girls (probably 4th grade) came up to me during recess and started making fun of what I did with my hair for 'Crazy Hair Day' during spirit week. I had my hair up in curlers and they were saying it wasn't even a crazy hair style, saying it looked stupid. I didn't know what to say.

Another time is when I was in my geometry class a couple years ago. I always answered the questions he asked the class, and they'd make fun of me for it. So once I just told them to shut up. They went, "OOOooohhhh," but I'm pretty sure they were all getting D's in the class, so it was just funny to me that they would make fun of someone who actually knew what the teacher was talking about.

So just a few months ago, someone I used to be really good friends with said I was weird. I think she did it more or less because she was mad that we weren't close anymore, but I don't think it's right no matter what the reason is. She actually wrote it under a picture of me on Facebook, which definitely constitutes bullying.

I've been bullied a lot at previous jobs. I think that's been the worst out of any situation. It seems like the other situations I could ignore better, and brush it off, but at work they were relentless. It got to the point that I would literally walk into work, and someone said I was being talked about. They wouldn't even bother saying hi. Behavior like that in adulthood disgusts me. When I think of childhood bullying, it doesn't bother me AS much, but when I think about adults bullying younger people, it's a perplexity. It contradicts everything; people say I'm fairly child-like, but yet they act like they're in elementary school by incessantly gossiping about people! I am beginning to learn that trusting peoples' opinions about me is the worst thing I could do. I tend to forget that people who insult me generally don't have my best interest at heart, so why would they have anything nice to say to me anyways. They're obviously going to cast me in a negative shadow. It does suck when it happens at a job though... I'd rather not get fired because someone doesn't like me.

Nowadays, it does not happen often. The worst that anyone does to me now is moderately annoy me. My school is very low-bullying, thankfully. My sympathies to those of you who aren't so fortunate.

Amen to that. It's always a concern when I start a new job, and I do resent the hell out of it, because it's one more thing I have to take into consideration when I apply. Sure, I'm qualified, and have experience in that area, but..... will they like me...? Will they be okay if I can't keep up with their banter and small talk? Will they get uncomfortable if I'm nice but keep to myself? Ridiculous!

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Since entering college, I haven't been bullied, but I was from kindergarten all the way throughout high school. The teachers did little to help, and although my mom would try to speak to the bullies' parents directly, it just made them torture me even worse and sometimes they had enough influence over the class to make everyone there ridicule or criticize me, or at the very least cover for them when a teacher asked what was going on. I'm not even sure if I ever will fully recover from the scars they left on me but I do think it made me a stronger person in some aspects. Although, I still believe there's more efficient and less traumatizing ways to build someone's character compared to making them feel worthless every day of their lives. I really hate bullying.

Every time I go to college and interact with people in the group I sit with at lunch. They are constantly teasing me and calling me cruel things. I hate it especially when they say "It's just a joke, you know!" Yeah, okay... Just a joke. It was funny the first time (to them), but they continue to make me the butt of the joke, and I am getting fed up. Now I'm actually being a jerk back, and they can't take their own cruelty being thrown back at them. Now they end up offended at me, yet when I am upset, they could care less.

I am not physically bullied or anything like that, but just verbally.

Yes, often. There is one girl in particular that is really quiet and nobody bothers her (in the group). They like to make fun of how I only care about certain subjects, and if I'm not talking about the subjects, I don't interact with the group (which is not true, from my point of view). I try to interact, but I don't care about what THEY care about. Sure as hell makes it a challenge to relate when people only care about pointless crap.
Anyway, the girl is extremely quiet the entire time these people are interacting, yet they point me out and make fun of me for MY shyness/quietness.

This same thing happens in another group for a class. The group that I'm in ALSO says the same thing about how quiet I am. I told them that I observe and then speak when I need to. They don't seem to get the fact that I am listening; I just listen and give effective opinions when they are needed. There is another quiet girl in that group, and I am yet again teased. One person even touched me and said how quiet I was. I still don't know why she needed to touch me to tell me that. What makes it worse is that two of the girls in the group WILL NOT stop talking. I can't even speak, so why bother attempting to speak? Isn't that rude to interrupt?

I rarely get bullied online now, in real life, never.

I was bullied 4 times in elementary school, twice in middle school, and twice in high school. I have good memory of these events.

I also agree, that worked pretty well for me too. Just stand your ground and don't back down. Even if you are not going to fight them. Also avoid situations where you are likely to get bullied, to begin with. Keep as far away from the bullies as possible, and you are less likely to even have a confrontation with them.