How do Aspies express emotions that's so different to NTs?

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I never quite understand this trait. For of all, men express emotions differently from women. I don't see many men cry as much as I see women cry. Does that explain why men are more likely to get more aggressive than women?

So is that why Aspies have a lot of anger in them? I'm just confused because I cry all the time, over things NTs would and wouldn't cry over, but I'm still always so angry at myself, and I can be so aggressive sometimes. And I open up with my feelings, I'm always talking to others how I'm feeling, if I am anxious I will say so, I just can't keep these emotions bottled up, so I don't know how some people can.

Also, can NT women who don't tell anybody about how they feel just doing it to look ''tough'' to other people? Because I know a 19-year-old NT who has just started her first job, and every morning before she goes, she gets the runs. She never used to get the runs until she started at this new job, and her mum wonders if it's because of nerves, but she's not sure because her daughter hasn't said how she feels about her job, she's said she enjoys it and that's about it. But she is always so calm and cool, and her mum wonders if she gets nervous inside but is good at hiding it and doesn't like other people to know she gets nervous, perhaps? Or can that be typical of teenagers?

Also, does being assertive have something to do with expressing emotions? Because I am good with opening up about my emotions but I find being assertive/standing up for myself very difficult indeed. Is that typical of an Aspie?

I think a part of it is not that emotions are necessarily stronger, it is that when they do come out, they tend to be a lot more focused.

I've been told at times that I am emotionless, neutral-faced, a rock, etc. but when emotion does come out, it can be like a floodgate opening up. For example, certain music can make me cry. If I really get into the song and FEEL it, the music can bring me to tears.

An example of this, which happens to be a song that also mirrors how I feel much of my life has been:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gv4N4T1kfmo[/youtube]