Anyone else have traits from childhood that dissapeared?

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I did not seem to understand sarcasm when younger, but am fine with it now?
My theory of mind was only ever slightly off, but seems fine now. o.O

I don't understand this. I know aspies much smarter than me that still have trouble with sarcasm, so my councellor saying because I am a high functioning autistic is bs, she knows nothing of the spectrumites.

Anyway, just curious. Thanks.

Certainly. As a youngster, I had problems making up my own sentences, and would use pre-scripted phrases for most conversations. Then later on, I didn't know how to use casual speech, and had to learn that. Today, I can make up my own sentences on the spot, though I'm still working on conversations.

Your counselor saying that you "lost" that trait because you are high-functioning is very silly. Every autistic person on the planet learns new things and in the process "loses" or compensates for traits that they had when they were little. For example, nearly all non-verbal toddlers learn to speak by the time they're nine. Even profoundly autistic people learn things.

It is all a matter of degrees. Personally I still use per-scripted phrases all the time and have issues with casual conversation, but I can understand humor (subtle humor can hit me immediately but there are times when it does not 0,o) and I have lost a few obsessive behaviors like smoothing out my food and organizing it as I eat it. =)

We grow up!

A lot, I used to be really quiet, shy and introverted, now I'm fairly outlandish, extroverted and dominating.

I don't have a need for a strict timetable any more. I don't walk on my tip toes any more. I don't rock any more. I wore regular underwear from the age of 3 until I was 33. I don't go on to people in real life about my special interests like I did when I was 10. I don't avoid people as much as I used to. I also don't hide my true colours from the world, any more. If I like the 60s, I will dress in a unisex Mod fashion for all to see on the days that I'm doing really well. I certainly don't chant about the penis any more. I no longer have a favourite show on TV that I have to watch like clockwork every single week. I don't spin like I did as a child and I also no longer spin things that have a chord.

I'm getting better at casual conversation, and since sometime last year I can talk to people I don't know.

Yeah. I used to be an extreme systemizer, now I'm an extreme empathizer. I've come full circle.

Many of my childhood traits have changed due to development.

e.g. I had severe impairments in verbal and non-verbal communication in childhood, but I use verbal and non-verbal communication as an adult, because I learned to speak and gesture and what communication was during late childhood and as a consequence of both my natural development and eggsplicit teaching in these areas. So I was years behind most children in these areas, and the pattern of communication that I learned and now use as an adult is different from the NT patterns.

e.g. I had severe impairments in motor functioning in childhood, so I was constantly falling over and seemed to be incapable of holding most objects without dropping them. My motor functioning improved very significantly during late childhood and throughout adolescence, so I don't have signficant problems in this area anymore. Back when my motor control was problematic, I had certain areas of good ability in both gross and fine motor skills, such as riding a bike and drawing pictures, so I am not sure what the problems were with the falling over and dropping things all the time.

And many moar.

I get sarcasm and irony now. I didn't used to. I'm better at picking up on sexual and romantic cues in film and literature, and sometimes in my friends, but I'm still clueless when it is directed towards me.

I don't have to sleep sandwiched between the mattress and the wall anymore. I don't tell people about my special interests anymore unless they share them. I don't stim as much as I used to, and when I do it's usually when I am alone.

I'm better at casual chit chat now. I am also less open to new friendships and relationships. I'm better at communicating my needs but not as trusting when it comes to confiding my needs.

It's almost reversed for me these days.

I used to not worry about other people's reactions at all. I was very annoying and loud and could not really fit in. Now I try not to open up too much because it will mean I will annoy other people. ^^

I am more comfortable now being on my own though. I no longer try to be someone I'm not.

Hyposensitivity to pain, cold, heat, life, etc. Today I have severe hyper sensitive issues to most senses, light ad sound being the worst. I used to hate salty foods and incense or sprays which I still do but I barely noticed much around me. And when I'd injure myself badly I'd burst into laughter.

I had good balance as a kid too. Not perfect, or even average bt these days I'm worse.

I'm more aware of things now. I used to be a wanderer and have no sense of danger, now I do.

I was shy, aloof and quiet. I'm still introverted today but I am capable of saying more things to people. I get the odd 20 minute awkward silence when I have nothing to say but it's not as bad when I was younger.

I'm better at following story lines and telling people what's happening if they walk on me watching a movie. I used to struggle with this when I was 18 years old.

I've got the hang of sarcasm and humour though at times I have to keep reminding myself of it when I get a little shocked by what people say.

I still use echolalia and echopraxia in social situations. I still stim by staring away from people the most. I still have routines but don't put up as much of a fuss if I have to change them around when people want to do things. I've still got anxiety but not enough to become a selective mute. I'm still very resistant to change but I talk my way out of it instead of breaking down crying.

Definitely understanding sarcasm and jokes.

I couldn't relate to people at all or articulate my own feelings and thoughts when I was younger, up until my early 20s. That has changed dramatically.