Talking and writing skills
I've noticed that my reading and writing skills are superior to my talking and listening comprehension skills (the same goes for foreign languages).
Which means that I usually am able to express myself better in writing than in talking. It's a lot easier. With talking I always sense that I struggle with forming sentences that others would understand (and sometimes I forget simple words, too). I'm horrible at casual and colloquial speech. Listening to people talk is sometimes difficult and I have people repeat to me what they said but I don't think it's due to deafness since I can hear very subtle sounds. Sometimes this is about my attention but at other times I just can't understand them acoustically (it seems).
I'm better at writing and reading. I can comprehend texts in foreign languages that are above my level for example. It's overall not too difficult for me to write texts. It usually flows and I don't really have to think about it. Especially if I have to write on a topic I'm interested in (but not necessarily).
I'd imagine not talking regularly can affect speech in some ways. But maybe it's not just that.
Anyway, can anybody relate or are your experiences altogether different?
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Yeah, it's the same with me too. I can write a decent essay but I can't speak a word of sense. I think it's because of my nerves too, plus I stutter too much! When it comes to listening I'm pretty crap too, either I forget what the person says or go off daydreaming.
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I can absolutely relate to this. I can form clear, coherent sentences when I am writing, and throughout college I passed my essays and papers with flying colors. However, when someone asks me a simple question, or asks me to explain something in detail, my mind just goes blank. Or I have to ask people to repeat themselves. It's embarrassing and it makes me want to not talk to people, which makes it worse for me and my anxiety.
I've been thinking of going to a speech pathologist.
Are talking, listening, reading and writing connected?
I don't stutter. But I forget simple words and have to describe them sometimes which embarrasses me at times. Or I use speech patterns or words that are not really common (hence not casual).
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and never / directly see the city/ is of some comfort
Spectrum disorders are neurologically based problems. It is not uncommon for us to have trouble processing input, and this can lead to a time lag in our responses. Auditory input seems to be the form that is most often subject to this processing problem. I suffer from it myself. It took me a long time to figure out why I have always automatically watched people's mouths when they talk, even though I am not deaf. Mouth watching adds a visual component to the input that helps me input it better.
This processing problem is why you read and write better than you handle auditory input and output, you are more visual based.
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I think most people on these forums would be surprised if they ever met me, because in person I'm silent most of the time, and when I do talk, I'm a train wreck. I know what I want to say but getting the words out is difficult. I stutter and stumble and finally just give up and go silent again. I often resort to hand gestures because it's so much simpler. I have plenty of difficulties in putting my thoughts into words when writing (I've posted more than one topic here about this), but I'm much better at it in general than speaking.
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I am bester at writing and reading than I am at speaking and listening. For me, the ideal mode of communication is me writing to speak to others, and me reading to listen to others. However, since I do have the ability to speak and listen with mouth and ears, this mode is not eggspected or accepted for in-person communication between me and others, so I have to communicate in ways that do not work well for me. If I could write and read to speak and listen, then others would understand me bester, and I would understand others bester eggswell.
I see.....Your avatar picture is le samourai...intresting.
Is there a article or study about processing problems (auditory)? I'd be interested to read something about this.
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and never / directly see the city/ is of some comfort
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