Is the following statement common for fellow Aspies?

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I have been told on multiple occasions that I am self-absorbed and quote-on-quote, "selfish." I, however, don't feel that I am. I feel like those who have felt this way have only had misconceptions with the fact that I am merely just more interested in my own well-being rather than my peers and those around me. When I think about things, I tend to worry about myself and my individuality rather than myself being part of a whole. I see that as a normality, not selfishness, but whatever.

People have told me I am selfish and I don't care. I think it is common in us.

Only with people who i do not like or communicate well with anyway. But then they are responsible for half of the problem aswell.

I think it is just a question of honesty. I don't say I care if I don't, but I think other people say they do just because it's nice. A bit like how people with Asperger's will say truly whether they like someone's hair, while other people will say it's beatiful, but in reverse.

It's "quote unquote". It doesn't make much sense.

There is a powerful social consciousness that permeates the air. It is very important with all the forms of expressions or
"etiquette."

I'm one to miss the mark in noticing this well, and much more so when I was younger. I really didn't care to know it, as it really didnt interest me to follow any codes or to want fit into any standards. I've found it interesting that there is quite a bit of active emotional force between groups and this bond is strong via empathy. Ive noticed this all too well -- the care in knowing this is very strong-- it is very emotional centered-- it's "moral."

The lack of interest in it though( by my part), has always bothered me a little. I've always understood the reasons why it is there, and the importance of it, but it never emoted me to a point of conversion to join in it. Though, in principle I care about people and many times I do more than the average of people do, when extending myself to help out.

It's all intellectual. And I follow the forms of etiquette to blend in.

It all boils down to the "social contract."

I have been accused of everything at one time or another during my life.

Someone repeatedly accused me of letting my kids watch too much television about a year ago. I told her repeatedly that is impossible. We do not own a television. She listened only after I raised my voice.

The accusation always says a great deal about the accuser. In fact, it probably says more about the accuser than the accussed.

If you were "self absorbed; self centered; selfish; antisocial." then you would not post at WP.