Sometimes not there, sometimes there, but at a low volume. Mostly one or the other, not much at regular strength of expression. Also, not always the correct expression for the situation, but then I don't always read the situation correctly, so how can I be expected to respond correctly under those circumstances?
I am also bad at thinking of correct wants/needs social questions to ask people. Sometimes I think of it after the fact, but not always. Examples:
- Would you like something to eat/drink?
- Are you cold, would you like me to raise the heat?
- (Says have a headache) would you like an aspirin?
- And many, many other such questions.
I am absolutely terrible when it comes to these kinds of questions. It rarely occurs to me that someone might have a need or want that I should be helping them with, by at least asking if they want/need whatever it is. I am so busy with my own thoughts, issues, and the problem of dealing socially with the other person, that I don't have enough mental processing power left to perceive their needs and wants, and that I am expected to at least ask about it. Sometimes I will think of it after they are gone, and feel bad that I neglected to ask these things, but it's too late then.
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If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured, or far away.--Henry David Thoreau