Do people often use your jokes or ideas?

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27 May 2012, 11:57 am

I don't know if anyone else finds this happen to them, but quite often when I'm in a group setting I make a joke but only one person hears it. Then they repeat it and everyone happens to hear and they get credit for the joke. It frustrates me so much because it happens so regularly.
This also happens when I come up with ideas or thoughts, people copy them and get all the credit for it. It's really annoying because I feel like I'm the seed of inspiration. Lots of the time I don't realize that I have good ideas or I don't know where to take them and then these people who can't think up ideas of their own steal mine. I just get so angry thinking how these people become successful in life when they're not very smart or creative but just have people skills and utilize ideas they steal.
Whoops I didn't mean to sound so bitter :shrug: anyway can anyone relate to this?



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27 May 2012, 1:37 pm

Yes, that happens to me a lot. I'm always with either friends or family, so they are the ones that do it. I usually make a small "scene" if someone does that and make sure everyone knows it was me who said it first. Not in a bragging type of way. Now my friends and family have learnt to give me credit now. They tell me that they're going to tell someone and when I start to say to tell them I said it first, they get a little annoyed and say "I'm going to".



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27 May 2012, 2:09 pm

Happens to me a lot and it drives me crazy.



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27 May 2012, 2:29 pm

Yes, often.


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27 May 2012, 5:15 pm

When I suggest something people usually tell me I wrong for whatever reason. Then ... a few days pass and they're doing what I suggested. It's like my idea has to go through some sort of translation process. I don't worry about getting the credit, it's nice enough to see something I thought of being done.

'Course, sometimes my ideas are half baked, and rightly rejected.



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27 May 2012, 5:23 pm

Happens to me all the time and I find it frustrating and annoying.


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27 May 2012, 10:51 pm

it happens to me very often just like u described OP.

whats worse is often times days later, they come and tell me this information like they found it on their own and their teaching me something new :|
i either just nod or say yeah i know


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27 May 2012, 11:23 pm

My ideas they cant undersand them most of the time but if they do they are there ideas a week later. :evil:



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28 May 2012, 1:12 am

treblecake, I get the joke thing. I'm an NT that prides myself on my sense of humor, and I post jokes on facebook and get mild responses. an attractive friend who has a promotion company asked me to write jokes for his facebook page, I, well he got tons of responses. I know this is a bit different, but it is also similar, and I was SO mad.



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28 May 2012, 3:00 am

I spent three years writing an online book about the forgotten band Bloodrock. Helped get them remembered. When they had a reunion concert, first performance in 25 years, I hustled Goldmine for an article proposal. After all, I had all the data. They sent a professional writer to the show and she soaked up my online materials for the ensuing Goldmine story. None too pleased was I.


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28 May 2012, 4:12 am

Not so much jokes as ideas, but I tend to offer them up pretty freely so I don't usually mind too much.


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28 May 2012, 4:49 am

I recognise this from my own experience. Is it an AS thing? At the fringe of the group, but things filter in.

Perhaps it also happens to NTs?

When I do get the spotlight in a group, my ideas usually come across as 'cynical' or 'a bit way out'.



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28 May 2012, 7:55 am

I don't think this is an aspie thing, it probably happens to everyone to some degree.
And vanhalenkurtz I feel for you, that must have really sucked.