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tall-p
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01 Feb 2012, 7:01 pm

Are you able to socialize well on facebook? I thought it was great at first, but as the months rolled by I realized I was just as out of sync there as I have been my whole life. Sharing stuff that was boring, commenting on stuff that no one cares about, paying attention to things that made no sense to anyone else. I stopped logging on.


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01 Feb 2012, 7:07 pm

I go on there to check out groups I go to. I sometimes post mini rants on my wall and share youtube videos or links to something I have read. I will sometimes post updates about my kid but haven't in a while. I also have family on there so it's for them when I do updates on him.



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01 Feb 2012, 7:55 pm

it's only useful for reading up on information i "should have known", so i can appear to be truly interested and connected



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01 Feb 2012, 8:06 pm

I'm more interested in the pages about psychology, sociology or music than about what people have to say. And I've been deleted and rejected so many times by people I thought were "friends" that I've become delusioned.



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01 Feb 2012, 8:31 pm

I don't have a facebook account. I never understood what all the hype is about.



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01 Feb 2012, 8:49 pm

Facebook helps me trick myself into thinking I'm socializing.

Really, I'm just as tongue tied and awkward there as I am in real life, but at least the medium of computer has less social anxiety attached to it, so I "say" things I might otherwise not say in person.

There are different challenges to communicating over the computer. For example, in real life I say something awkward and people end the conversation. On facebook chat, I say something awkward and the person responds with "lol" which always throws me for a loop, because what the hell does lol mean? (I know what it stands for. That's different from what it means.)

I read an article somewhere that facebook makes you feel like everyone has a better social life than you, because everyone is always posting pics of doing this or doing that. I can see that - I see the people I have friended having parties or going out, and then there's me.

I can't get rid of my facebook though. I really do feel more socially connected with it, however illusionary that might be. Also, I manage publicity for my university choir so I need to manage their facebook page.


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01 Feb 2012, 8:49 pm

I have a facebook account as a mere formality really, I never used to bother but since I bounce around the internet all the time I do keep seeing these "comment with FB" buttons and so decided to make an account, I will go on it occasionally, but cannot understand how anyone can possibly fill half a day reading boring crap about people they barely see in real life.

This is a recent comment from a girl I have known for quite a while but rarely talk to:

"Goodnight everyone, sweet dreams xXx"

Was that really necessary to say?


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01 Feb 2012, 8:58 pm

Sparhawke wrote:
"Goodnight everyone, sweet dreams xXx"

Was that really necessary to say?

That's the thing... to most people that means something nice, and it fits in seamlessly. It's social and nice... maybe even femine?


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01 Feb 2012, 9:23 pm

i find NTs think its cool to have a facebook. they never use it though. for most people its just there.



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01 Feb 2012, 10:03 pm

Rofl I always have facebook opened on a different tab just in case someone messages me, but out of all the sites i go to, I'm on Wrong Planet longest. I hate facebook, but I need to make sure my friends aren't going to kill themselves or something (I hate having so many suicidal friends, but I love them. I'm always there to make sure they don't die, it's my job)


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01 Feb 2012, 10:26 pm

i am actuallu thinking about deleting my facebook account.
i dont find it fun and entertaining anymore.



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01 Feb 2012, 11:33 pm

I have a facebook account but I use it mostly for updates in groups I'm involved in and for event invitations. I post statuses and like other statuses when I'm really bored. I don't use facebook for chat often because I have my cell phone for that or I can just talk to the person then next day. Most of what I tell my friends isn't "urgent" information that some people tell their friends on facebook.



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02 Feb 2012, 2:40 am

I just use my facebook account to keep in touch with family as I live at the other side of the country. Other than that I just browse but don't find things there particularly interesting, especially "friends" who endlessly talk about how great they are and what a fantastic life they have. I'm just not interested and don't get involved in that. It's certainly not a social thing for me, just an easier conduit to contact family and a few very close friends.


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02 Feb 2012, 2:51 am

I use Facebook to keep things organised with my bands, promote said bands, chat with a few people, ans socialise with an escape button.


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02 Feb 2012, 12:57 pm

i joined facebook when it had started newly.
There were no Indians on that site..........at that point of time.

Its been many many years now
But i have blocked all my cousins, office colleagues from my account.

Only added people with similar interest like tarot etc.
But now they dont seem to interact with me also.

Its like a fake illusion that i get I have lot of friends etc.
it gives me a high but lasts for a while

I ended up meeting 2-3 people from facebook mostly guys
one of them wanted to molest me literally he was trying to work up his hands all over me
another one wanted to sell products to me to mint money
third one i think wanted sex.........whatever

But facebook is for loosers...........people who are actually popular, have lot of friends, etc usually dont
use FB much since they are active socially

But loosers like me tend to get false high by being on FB that someone is interested in me.


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02 Feb 2012, 1:18 pm

No, I'm just as socially isolated on Facebook as I am in real life. To me Facebook is just another place for me to feel ignored and invisible.