Where would you meet fellow Aspies?

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I generally like museums, zoos, places of historical value if I'm going to make the effort and go out. Have seen many old people and field trips but anyone I've struck up a conversation with seem to be more interested with the activity of going to said location instead of the actual exhibits. I end up rambling on about the biodiversity/historical significance and it really turns people off to conversing. I figure I wouldn't have this problem if it was with another aspie who shared similar interests. Would local AS meet ups help with this, or are they more therapeutic?

Youu can meet them at said places but they might not wanna talk to you.

Of course you can meet them here.

The only problem with meeting other Aspies is that they won't necessarily have the same interests as you.

I went to a social group for adults on the autism spectrum last night, and it was a wonderful experience and made me feel accepted, but it still wasn't a place where I could go on about my special interest and actually have a conversation about it. I feel like there is nowhere to actually have a conversation as in depth as I would like - my special interest is musical theatre, and I went to college to study it and even there people didn't want to talk about it as much as I did.

What I really want is for someone to listen to my lecture and maybe ask me questions about it. Maybe I should become a professor so I can lecture students and get paid for it. I occasionally monologue about theatre to people, but they never seem interested or ask questions in return. Not even other Aspies.

In that vein, maybe you could look into giving tours of the places you're interested in? Then you'd have a whole captive audience that want to hear what you have to say, and maybe one or two of them will want to have a conversation about it.

I have met two Aspies from the WrongPlanet. The first one I met in Chicago---my wife was on a business trip there. I met the member at a restaurant for lunch, then on another day for dinner at a shopping mall. The second one I met near my hometown at an autism meeting---the member was speaking to our group. I enjoyed meeting both members.

Local aspie meet-ups or support groups are a sure way to find other aspies. Each group varies in character as some are about social networking, some are more activity oriented, and there may be some therapy type groups as well (I am aware of this for my location, which is Southern California).

Like others have mentioned in this thread, internet groups are good too.

Coffe shopes are good.

* At the library, browse the shelves which interest you. Anyone else searching through those shelves too? If you go to the library often, you might see the same person often enough that you can strike a conversation about that subject.

* College events on campus. Look out for events you want to participate in. Most people consider those events so boring, you can bet the people who are there really like the topic! I see a lot of interesting lectures / conversations.

* Clubs about specific interests... Look out on Craigslist under Community, and Events.

I've never met a fellow aspie...