do aspies have very little patience?

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I am finding that as I get older I am becoming LESS tolerant of other people. I can't stand it when other people smoke, whistle or stand too close to me. Is it just me or do other aspies react the same way?

"The older I get, the stupider people get." < My mother

I'm starting to get to be the same way, more I deal with people the more I realize how dumb a majority (majority not all of them, still some smart cookies out there) are and get super annoyed when it effects me.

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definitly not just you. I could have written that post, verbatim, with a few snarky remarks in addition

I would say yes overall, but it kind of depends on the situation for me. I do not suffer fools gladly, and often, not at all, but if someone comes to me looking for assistance, especially in regards to my profession (design), I have had many people remark on how patient I am. I think when people make an effort to understand and learn, it makes a huge difference.

I'm a very tolerant and level-headed person unless I'm driving. When I'm driving, people need to shut up and resolve their issues later.

I find that im very impatient. And yeah i think you're right other then what aspergians are obsessed with i dont think we have patience for a whole lot. Although i find mine has grown quite a bit from what it used to be.

Hmmm overall yeah impatience feels like a common trait probably due to the common association with anxiety/social anxiety more then anything else.

I find I don't have much patience, for a person of my age. Usually people get a little irritable or impatient when they perhaps get past mid-50s, but I sometimes feel like a grouchy old woman now, whereas most other people of my age seem laid-back and can go out and enjoy themselves and things what bother me doesn't bother them so much.

I get really snappy when people stand right near me in shops (people I don't know, I mean). Sometimes I wonder if people do it delibrately, because when I'm standing in a position where people can't get in my way or I can't get in their way, like standing about two of three feet away from the shelves when I'm looking, nobody comes near me or want to get anything on any shelves that are anywhere near me at all, and I've got a massive space all to myself. But when I'm standing closer to the shelves (maybe because I need to look more closely at what I need to get), there is always someone standing right up close to me, wanting to get to exactly where I'm standing and invading my personal space and making me lose concentration at what I'm looking at because they're right in my way, and I think to myself, ''if I was standing back a bit or further along, I bet you wouldn't even need to get anything off any of these shelves near me!'' So I get all irritable and snappy, and I walk away and wait 'til they have gone. I don't care if my body language makes them feel uncomfortable - I like people to know when I'm irritable sometimes (although people usually don't take any notice, especially women, because they get so absorbed into the items in shops that they forget about anything else, especially in clothes shops etc).

Anyway, enough of me ranting on about shopping - again. But yes, I find I get very impatient. I get all agitated when people come and sit next to me on the bus. I don't say thank you to the bus-driver if I don't like him or her or if they're not any of the familiar ones. I have a hatred of small children under 5, especially when they start screaming and shouting over nothing. I hate it when there are other people waiting at my bus stop for some reason (unless it's a man, because I don't feel so awkward with men standing there with me, for some reason other women make me feel awkward). I have to avoid seeing family at week-ends because all the family tend to gather in one room of someone's house and stay for the duration and I get a bit overwhelmed when there are too many people in one room. I get snappy and angry when people start yawning, coughing, sneezing, hiccuping and clearing their throat (even though they can't help it). I can't even be arsed with looking for jobs any more because I've been on job-seekers for so long that looking for work is becoming rather fruitless and also very tedious.

I often just find myself saying ''I just can't be bothered with it all'', and just want a simple, easy, quiet life.

I agree completely. It gets even worse when you're forced to work with them, though, because they just never feel like doing the work and someone has to do it. I don't mind others much as long as they keep their drama away from me, keep the volume on their iPods down, talk with inside voices, and at least attempt to make sense of whatever is going on around them before they seek me out for help.

I'm pretty good at cutting the apron strings with co-workers; we get to that point where they really should know what they are doing and then I am much less patient. But with clients it's different; especially the ones who admit to their ignorance. After all, that's why they're coming to me!

I'm very impatient.

I have always had very little patience with people. Strangely, I can wait for my turn or for a package without an issue, but I do not have patience in discussions, and when waiting for people to understand something I'm explaining.

I've always been very impatient.

Yeah, that's mostly my problem too. I get along fairly well with most people unless they either keep interrupting me or I have to spend all eternity explaining one particular thing to them. I used to make the big bucks tutoring in high school because I would charge them by the half hour to listen to me ramble on about science while they would just stare at me and keep their mouths shut. Best. Job. Ever.

it's entirely dependent upon my mood. in recognising that i think that i recognise my own bias in judging others. i guess that does not really relate to specific behaviour but i do get less bothered by things i do not like when i'm in a good mood.

i'm finding myself more tolerant as i get older (so far!) but also more able to see and overcome other peoples BS

i am impatient yes, i try to hide it though as i know it is just me feeling self important/uncomfortable. i generally am very quick at most tasks also so i do find it a bit bewildering when people take forever with some things

There are a few special exceptions, but for the most part, I'm incredibly impatient, particularly if I'm trying to show someone how to do something, and they just aren't getting it. I LOATHE having to repeat myself, and any time I've tried to show someone how to do something, I've had to fight myself not to jump over them and do it myself.

A very recent example of my impatience was the other evening when I was on the phone with my boyfriend. He was really excited about a video concept he had for a song he'd been listening to, and he wanted to tell me, in detail, about the concept and get my opinion. I was in the middle of doing something when he called, and I wasn't particularly interested in the concept, because it's not likely this concept would ever come to fruition, but I allowed him to talk to be nice. However, about halfway through the call, I was becoming increasingly impatient to get off the phone, and I started punching the arm of the chair I was sitting in so that I could fight the urge to tell my boyfriend I was no longer interested. It was awful.