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21 May 2019, 8:48 am

I’m perceived as shy, quiet, boring, and weird since I’ve had a service dog. People are frequently trying to figure out what she’s for when they see us together. We are stared at wherever we go.

Before I had her, people definitely saw me as boring, though.

Do you know or has anyone told you how you are perceived?


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21 May 2019, 9:41 am

I'd say weak. This is what my neighbor told me yesterday.



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21 May 2019, 9:49 am

komamanga wrote:
I'd say weak. This is what my neighbor told me yesterday.


That was an awful thing to say! There’s no way she can fully understand what you are struggling with to make that judgment call.

The people that I see making judgments like that the most are often people who lack a similar life experience and don’t have the empathy to make of for it.


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21 May 2019, 9:54 am

I've been told that I am "amazing," and that I'm a "genius."

I've also been told that I am a "sniveling pervert."

And everything in between.



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21 May 2019, 10:00 am

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I've been told that I am "amazing," and that I'm a "genius."

I've also been told that I am a "sniveling pervert."

And everything in between.


Who called you a “sniveling pervert?”

As an adult, I’ve been called: sweet, shy, backwards, no mind of my own, no personality, and vulgar words which I won’t repeat that are absurdly untrue.


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21 May 2019, 10:08 am

Somebody in high school.

Kids usually don't know what they're talking about in high school. They just come up with insults out of the clear blue sky. That's why I, eventually, didn't take any insult very seriously.



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21 May 2019, 10:10 am

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Somebody in high school.

Kids usually don't know what they're talking about in high school. They just come up with insults out of the clear blue sky. That's why I, eventually, didn't take any insult very seriously.


I didn’t have to deal with bullying in high school. Most of the stuff I heard about myself from people came when I was in my late teens and 20’s.


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21 May 2019, 10:15 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
I’m perceived as shy, quiet, boring, and weird since I’ve had a service dog. People are frequently trying to figure out what she’s for when they see us together. We are stared at wherever we go.

Before I had her, people definitely saw me as boring, though.

Do you know or has anyone told you how you are perceived?


I don't present well.
People often think I am less intelligent than I am.
Doesn't bother me since I don't need anyone to validate who I am. :wink:



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21 May 2019, 10:19 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
komamanga wrote:
I'd say weak. This is what my neighbor told me yesterday.


That was an awful thing to say! There’s no way she can fully understand what you are struggling with to make that judgment call.

The people that I see making judgments like that the most are often people who lack a similar life experience and don’t have the empathy to make of for it.


I'm not sure if she meant it in a bad way even though it sounds rather negative. She has schizoaffective disorder herself so she is not a healthy mind either. I think she was just being blunt and/or realistic...

Apart from that, I've also heard things like quiet, shy, reserved, bright but naive, and too honest. Quite a few people thought I was a junkie. In the past people often called me rude but I've learned to silence myself to a degree.



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21 May 2019, 10:24 am

Pepe wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
I’m perceived as shy, quiet, boring, and weird since I’ve had a service dog. People are frequently trying to figure out what she’s for when they see us together. We are stared at wherever we go.

Before I had her, people definitely saw me as boring, though.

Do you know or has anyone told you how you are perceived?


I don't present well.
People often think I am less intelligent than I am.
Doesn't bother me since I don't need anyone to validate who I am. :wink:


People think I’m less intelligent than I am sometimes, too.

It’s interesting to hear how we all come across in person. I’m much different on here than I am in person.


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21 May 2019, 10:42 am

Too many. So many that most people couldn't seem to make up their minds, and I couldn't bother with any adjectives about myself anymore.
Could be anything that others had described themselves here, could be the complete opposite, could be anything in between, or neither.
Some are more prominent, some aren't...


All I know is that so far; I'm not described as flirty, scared, perverted, ugly, and other more obvious visible stuff like, say, being bald or fat.


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21 May 2019, 11:02 am

I have been called so many things by so many people that to remember a single on would be difficult.
Some were understandable as to try to fit in so II feel safe to talk I somehow put on an act. I have found that humour covers many an awkward situation and the easiest way I've found to do this (And get over meeting people in the first time when in a group) is to act thick. This works for me well for the first few months because people will repeat things for me in a simpler way off I am not able to catch up with what people are saying. Also, by acting thick with a sense of humour I get included into whatever group of people I am with.
Here are some of the problems though. I am so good at the act that when people suspect I am not thick they start to pick on me. I have had whole groups of people turn against me which is why I will not really feel comfortable being in a group of people unless I know I can quickly run for the door before they can to run from the situation if things get ugly.
So maybe I am not on the spectrum as I try to hide from who I am when around people.
When I don't act thick and be myself I tend to not have anything much to offer to get along with people. I mean... I go very quiet as I don't seem to connect. So humour and acting slightly thick covers over the real me underneath like a type of safety net.
Now a huge advantage to acting thick is that people say things they would not say if they knew I was intelligent. (I am not saying I am some ultra intelligent genius. I am generally slightly above average intelligence if that makes sense).
Never forget a really funny event that I just couldn't resist once played right into my hands when I was in collage. Uhmm.. I mean college. Now remember I have a reputation of being thick by which time it was well established. A young man rushed into the toilet area where I was pouring with sweat and went straight to the drinks fountain and started gulping down water. I pretended to act surprised and said "That's what its for!" The poor man nearly choked himself as I left... :lol:



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21 May 2019, 11:14 am

I wish I knew how people perceive me!



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21 May 2019, 11:17 am

They think you like Virginia Woolf.



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21 May 2019, 11:26 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
I’m much different on here than I am in person.


It is my firm belief that these forums are the best communication method for me and autistics in general:
-No social anxieties.
-Don't have to worry about body-language, etc.
-No information overload.
-At home in a secure environment.
-We can take our time and reflect.



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21 May 2019, 11:32 am

Pepe wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
I’m much different on here than I am in person.


It is my firm belief that these forums are the best communication method for me and autistics in general:
-No social anxieties.
-Don't have to worry about body-language, etc.
-No information overload.
-At home in a secure environment.
-We can take our time and reflect.


Here here! (In other words I agree!)