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My support worker (she's from the National Autistic Society) and I discussed about whether I should tell my housemates (I live in supported housing) that I have Asperger's and we decided that I should do it. So, I told L that I have AS, she researched it and understood. Then I tried to explain it to E, who replied with "don't worry, god will cure you of it"!

I know religion can be a difficult topic for some (from experience). I am a complete atheist but she is extremely religious.

What can I tell her back in response? And how do I react to her daily preaching to me?

I do not want to be cured of AS as there are some things I like about it (even if there are things I struggle with related to AS).

I would respond with something like "I do not share your beliefs, but as long as your god hasn't cured me, please be aware that I will still have AS and will therefore react differently to certain things."

You can go into a long debate on religion with her or on whether AS can be cured (and whether that's desirable), but it's unlikely that either of you will convince the other. So the best way is to just agree to disagree and leave the matter be, leaving her with the information that you may react differently due to AS.

She has Religion in the same way you have AS; it's one of those things that will occasionally annoy the hell out of you, but you'll just have to tolerate if you live together. Just be patient and smile; she means well.

She lives in supported housing too. What condition does she have? God hasn't cured her, in the way he thinks he'll cure you. You could ask her about that, but, as you have to live with her, it would be best to smile and try to forget it.

I think E is schizoaffective.

Thank you for the responses. I will do what you said, and as well as that I will avoid the subject of AS with her for a while.

When she says God will cure you, you should say "That would be nice. I don't talk about religion though, so let's change the subject"

When she preaches at you, just say "I have different beliefs and I don't discuss religion" then offer to change the subject, or walk away.

If she keeps on preaching at you, tell her to stop it. However, remember that all tak about God isn't preaching. This could be her special interest and she wants to talk about it. You need to be able to differentiate what is preaching to you (telling you that you need to be saved, Jesus died for you, etc) and what is discusssing (talking about her experiences or what the Bible says, or about God in general).

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Just tell her that you think God knows what's best for you and keep it at that.

Thanks.

OliveOilMom - I will try out those sentences you suggested. I think religion is her main interest. Although she is definitely not AS, in fact, quite the opposite.

CockneyRebel - thanks, that is a good idea too.

When people preach to me - which is often, I don't know why - I tell them I'm a Robinist. I follow the religion of Robinism which believes in the preservation of all things Robin. They usually just get confused and fatigued and leave me be!

^ I like that!

Ignore that person, when she says stuff like that.