Do your parents have aspie traits?

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I've noticed some aspie traits in my mother...
-She can be oblivious to her surroundings--even moreso than me. It isn't uncommon for her to stop in the middle of an aisle at the supermarket and not pay attention to the fact that someone else wants to pass.
-She is a quiet, observant person, much like me, and can notice tiny details. She calls it having "the artist's eye."
-She'll sometimes take a joke literally.
-Social interaction is not her strong suit.
-She is honest, and she can be rather blunt at times.
-She has shutdowns.
-She seems to have some sensory issues involving certain kinds of lighting (bright lighting and fluorescent lighting tends to make her nervous).

I haven't seen my father in ages, but from what I can remember and gather from stories about him...
-Emotional reciprocity is not his strong suit.
-He can lose control of his emotions readily.
-I seem to remember my mom mentioning that he could get quite fidgety--she's brought it up when commenting about my incessant need stim with my legs.

As a corollary, I've noticed some aspie traits in my nephew.

Mine eats the same food for about a year and develops people as SIs. My dad as I am noticing keeps his garage the same way he used to get on me for, while I absorbed a bit more organization from an old aspie boss, but yup he's got his routines

My mom has some sensory issues; does not like bright light and fluorescent lights, does not like short shorts, does not like bass, does not like things loud like the TV being turned up high when it's not even blaring, I forget the rest. She also has special interests.


My Dad has poor social skills but he does have more aspie traits than my mother. I have also seen him have a temper; throwing things, slamming things, and cursing. But maybe that is his ADHD since I read they also tend to lose their tempers and do bad things during it. He has also toned down his sports interests so he isn't finding a sports bar anymore to see the game when he visits here or is somewhere else and he doesn't have to record all games anymore for him to watch later. He has gotten flexible about it.

My dad does for sure. He isn't very social and struggles to interact with other people. I has random obsessions like one time he would eat corn dogs for a while but got tired of them and then would get into some other obsession. He is very intelligent, much more than my mother and I, especially in science and history and loves to read.

My mom does have autism but not AS. She repeats herself a lot and has her share of loudness, outbursts and bothered by small noises that even I can't hear. She loves to yell at me which always increases my anxiety. >_> She's like a kid and if i get something at wal-mart and she doesn't, then she finds that it's really unfair. -_____-; She also gets angry a lot and when she's on the phone with my aunt, she'll talk really loud. D:

I think my mom might have PDD-NOS. She does show signs of learning delays since she can't spell worth s**t and always asks me or my dad to help. She can't drive and she lacks common sense too.

I love her dearly (now, many miles later) but truly mine is the classic "refrigerator mother" from the 1950's. More than aware this theory is totally discredited, but I was there. Still am and it makes me wonder.

Yes, many. iFather has social and cognitive traits, and iMother has sensory issues and stimming.

I got all of their autistic traits in one.

I swear my personality was cloned from my Dad's. We are so alike it's not funny.

I suspect my both parents for having Asperger's (my mother) and my father autism.

My grandparents do. Oddly enough my parents are AS opposites.

Someone has the isolation or aloneness.

Doesn't like unexpected company and will tell you to call first. Otherwise, If you do show up he is obviously annoyed.

Almost never comes to family gatherings--- the usual, " too busy, I've got things to do."

Very uncomfortable with eye contact. It looks to me like a very shy person reaction when his eyes quickly dart away -- his body language conveys an uncomfortable-ness when doing it. Friend once commented: " He never makes eye contact. It seems that he doesn't want to get too involved with people -- with people comes problems, and problems he doesn't want --- a comfortable distance."

Perhaps. But my step father makes a significant effort to suppress any Aspie traits she has. I will say if I get it from either parent, it's almost certainly from her. There's no way my father has any Aspie in him.

-My Mom's Side of the Family
-a lot of them are unemotional, my mum is emotional though
-a lot of my mum's side of the family are really quiet
-some of my mu's side of the family are really picky
-most of my mum's side of the family have some kind of mental disorder
-a lot of her family aren't really touchy feely, she is though
-most of my mom's family are really intelligent
-most of my mum's family have bad anxiety


-My Dad's Side of the Family
-my dad's unemotional
-my dad doesn't always look right into somebody's eye when he's talking to someone
-my dad has trouble finding things to say during conversations, he's really quiet
-my dad's not a touchy, feely guy
-most of my dad's family is really intelligent
-dad's family loves keeping traditions, order and structure
-my dad gets a bit of anxiety

Yes, my dad majored in microbiology and geology I think, went on to become a science teacher. He has always lived science, especially volcanoes, weather, geology, physics etc. He also loves military aviation and likes reading/studying the Manhattan project, I attribute this to him being born in the 50s and growing up in the 60s-70s when SAC (Strategic Air Command) was a big thing. My dad use to have TONS of airplane models from WW2 and some more modern ones for his time, like a B-52, he also fondly reflects to me the different commercials that use to air for then new planes. "The A-7 Corsair had a truly awesome commercial, son." When my dad's older brother was drafted into the Vietnam War, a very hard time for his whole family, I think this increased his love for aviation and he decided he was going to be a naval pilot. He did ROTC and made it all the way to pilot candidate training, which was MUCH easier to get into back during the cold war though to my dad's credit he is a brilliant man. Sadly, the most painful part of the story is that he get so close...but one day he said "Nope, I miss home" and hoped the fence I left . I love when we talk about planes and the stuff he did but I have to stop him during that part of his story, its too painful yet he happily reflects on it.

From a very early age my dad was to blame for my obnoxious aviation fetish, he even brought me a stinky aviator helmet from the Korean War from a military surplus and gave it to me when I was a little. It stunk SO badly my eyes would sting but I would put it on every time I watched my jet vids in the living room in the early 90s or get excited watching CNN coverage of the Gulf War. When we'd get into a car together, back when I was 3 or 4 he would act like we were getting into a tandem seated strike aircraft, like an F-111 or A-6. We had so many bizarre, "aspie" things we'd do that I always enjoyed, he made my early childhood very fun. 3-6 was a ball, nothing but planes, jet videos, flying around with dad when he got home and he would even help me put models together. I remember me and dad's first model airplane, an F-111 Ardvark, he ended up putting the whole thing together and I painted it in a bright disgusting shade of green that he over-painted to a darker, more camo color.

I never stopped loving jets but of course dinosaurs did grip me at that age too and my dad, the obsessive geology and science teacher only increased my interest. I just loved the dinos and we would watch documentaries on PBS that he would tape for me but I think dad would get frustrated with me at times because one of -his- obsessions was geology itself, how the bones became preserved and turned to rock. He would try to teach me this but I would just want to know about t-rex and dimetrodon(not a dinosaur, I know) and their diets/lifestyles.

My dad is quite obsessive, he's disabled anymore and spends his time watching the history or science channel. He's very obsessed with Bigfoot and UFOs now, though he is always willing to talk planes.



My mom is more "normal" on the outside, but she always had trouble making friends and blending into the crowd and being accepted. She did become popular though, as a kid, unlike me. I guess I inherited all my parent's weird traits. Both have emotional issues, dad has A LOT of paranoia and makes up scenarios and worries about crazy things.

The thing about my mom though, is she is very outgoing yet can be sort of socially awkward. She has a temper too and often times gets into trouble with it. My dad is usually pretty quiet and my mom takes jokes and sarcasm literally... sometimes my dad.

Funny part about that? They get after ME when I don't like their jokes and sarcasm when they pick on ME. When they are sometimes the very same way, especially my mother. My mom complains about EVERYTHING. It's like an obsession. She has an extremely short attention span too and the mental age of an eight year old sometimes.

There's more about them so... it might come to me gradually.

My mum hates loud noises, and hates socializing, and wishes she could work on her own without having to speak to anyone else. Also she worries a lot over different things, more than the average person would. She also hates her routine changing. But she says that she never used to be like this when she was younger, even 10 years ago she wasn't like it - even I can tell you that. But I think it's part of getting older and being shy aswell, and being, what we call, a ''worrier''.

My dad is definately not Aspie but he does have a special interest, which if football, and it takes over his mind and his life. My mum said he's always put football first, before his family.

But everyone has at least one Aspie trait that doesn't make them Aspie at all.

My mom:
-sensitive hearing, gets headaches easily from loud sounds. I've even seen her shutdown as a result
-sensitive to lighting
-gets migraines often and easily, sensory related and air pressure changes
-a very hard time making and keeping friends
-horrible/blunt/rude sense of humor
-no social skills and is oblivious to that fact
-very clingy to my dad, she can't function without him (people find it adorable, but I find it pathological)
-highly emotionally sensitive
-facial expressions tell all
-hasn't held a public job (independent of my father) for more than 40+ years (that I can recall)

My dad:
-VERY moody, his mood can go from chipper to grim in 30 minutes...like 3 times a day (it's exhausting trying to keep up)
-overall not a pleasant person to be around mainly because of his moodiness
-to my knowledge, only has one real (that he hangs out with) friend
-easily influenced in some ways, very very stubborn in others
-very strange social behavior
-very cold/distant relationship with his children (me and my brother); detachment
-odd employment pattern

I'm sure there are more traits with them two, but these are the main ones that I remember.