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So, I am 25 years old and am still having an extremely hard time living life day to day. I am extremely intelligent but I am crippled by my non-existant communication skill. Which frustrates me! Anything I do, comes natural! I pick up sports, education, mechanics, etc. Everything just comes natural! When I say everything, I mean everything, and immediately! My communication limits me. Its so bad its crippling. I can't make friends. So that means no girl friend, no buddies, etc. Unless I act wild and wear booty shorts to the mall or a Santa hat and a speedo in the summer at the beach. Then I meet people that are wild too but my lack of communication skills limits the progression of the friendship. So it only lasts a short while. Then they realize that they made a mistake.

I work out a lot. I'm 6 foot tall 205 pounds of muscle or 93.2kg. I boxed for 5 years so I'm used to being in shape. I can sit around for months and maintain my shape.

I am severely obsessive with a lot of topics. Mainly computers! I am proficient in 4 languages and am working on 2 more at the moment. If I do pick an interest up, I go at it fullheartedly! Never half ass!

As you can see, I like to talk about myself a lot lol From afar, I seem normal. Its when I start to talk that it is obvious! When I walk in the mall, I am so uncomfortable! I walk and look where I am walking but then I see people and they are looking at me. Which makes for a lot of eye contact! Sometimes I stare, or look away really fast. Then I don't know what to do so ill stare at the wall or the floor and I feel the level of awkwardess skyrocket! I don't know weather to smile or say hi. While waiting at the counter for a coffee, I'll remain quite because of lack of knowing what to say. It makes it awkward for everyone behind the counter.

My family consists of my herion addict mother and sister. A brother in prison and my sisters 2 kids. They ha e done me so dirty and make me feel like a burden and unwanted. They avoid me and often redicule me.

I am on disability and only collect $700 a month. An apartment I. New Jersey is roughly $800 or more a month. So I'm living at my grand fathers for the moment but I feel so lost because of my situation and feel like there is no way out!

I feel so alone and I see everyone on these autism forum's with significant others and friends and communicating fine and I wonder, is aspergers just a bull s**t diagnosis or are people freely and readily adopting this "label" to feel better about them being awkward?

I thought aspergers was a communication disorder. I dont fit in in tbe real world or even tbe internet. I was reading someones post on here and he said he has a friend with aspergers and he doesn't know if he can befriend him anymore. I wish I could find that one person that could push all my baggage aside and be a friend to me. I don't know what to do or where to go and would like to hear feed back! Thanks

They have Meetup groups for aspies in most cities in the U.S., probably the world at this point. There's online dating. There's work or school. There's religious organizations. Visit your local dog park with a golden lab retriever. Don't laugh. Dogs are a weak spot for females.

I tried college and it didn't work out man. And if I can't make friends how am I going to get a GF? This is just the way it is and the way it shall remain!

Pardon the tough love but going to college to find a girlfriend is a poor use of funds. Far as you know, a girlfriend is where your self-esteem problems really kick up. You got to find out how to be friends with yourself to get some viable traction.

I didn't say I went to college to find a girl friend. You misunderstood what I said. I went to school to learn. I love learning. It didn't work out though. Mostly because the environment was to much for me to handle! Way too many people and it was a sensory overload! I felt all eyes were on me and I would say the dumbest stuff in class and look like a fool. No one would socialize with me and I felt out of place. A very uncomfortable feeling!

I don't even know where to begin to look for an aspire chick with the same level of communication issues as I have. I'm more concerned about my life in general and how it is affected by my lack of communication skills.

I have been in relationships before and I always get too attached, too quick! And I often feel confused, alienated and lost. It spirals out of control and I know I should let go but can't. It really gets quite messy!

This is going to sound messed up but I am glad someone has similar problems. Only because it lets me know that I am not alone! I'm sorry!

I feel its lo late! I'm already 25 and have no idea how or where to begin to establish proper communication skills. I absorb information and educational material like a sponge but when it comes to communication, it just doesn't happen. I think that's what aspergers/autism is though. A life long struggle to try to developed the undevelopeable! I have accepted that this is who I am and cannot change it. Maybe you got lucky curiouskitten.

I just wish j had a family who cared and knew I have a problem that will not allow me to be independent. In order to do anything in life "we" need good communication skills.

Maybe you two have a much milder case than I?

I have no doubt that I'm going to raise the eyebrows of some die-hard liberals when I say this, but it's something you should consider. Get a degree in international studies or something having to do with national security. Then, use your talents working as an analyst for the Central Intelligence Agency. They pay way better than disability and you'll be able to rise like a phoenix from the situation you are in. Anybody that speaks 4 languages and is that good with computers should be in the intelligence community. I have worked with a number of these people in my military career, and the ones I have dealt with were very professional and very helpful. Just don't hang around any prostitues like Obama's security team does and you'll be fine!

Longshanks