No, you can't come to my house.

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I live in a tiny (TINY!) studio apartment. I don't have people over. Ever. It's just always been this way. I socialize at other people's houses. I have animals that share my space, a couple of dogs, a couple cats, leopard geckos, a chinchilla, and a frog-tadpole thing. I post pictures of them on facebook occasionally (but not obnoxiously ). Today, I posted a photo of my tree frog tadpole that just got all it's legs (still has a tail). An old high school friend from 9th grade wrote "you have the coolest critters, I'd love to come see you sometime, I hope you don't mind if I bring my son". 9th grade was 17 years ago. I don't know her anymore. I had to block her for a while because her husband left her and I got sick of the 10 posts a day of how miserable she was. I don't particularly like most kids. I don't particularly like most people who have kids (she has 4). And I don't run a petting zoo.

I know just ignoring her would be rude, but it's probably the most likely scenario.

Suggest meeting somewhere neutral and getting reacquainted.

I hate people coming over. Hate it. Really, really hate it.

Hell, I don't even answer the door or phone (even if it's my sister).

Not exactly conductive to forming any type of relations with [nearly] everyone, but that's how the hermit goes.

We don't invite anyone over, ever. The only people who invite themselves over are relatives. We don't really like that either but usually allow them. Like our niece keeps wanting to come and play, grandma and grandpa want to visit, what can we say? I can't help but feel we're bullied, but then those are normal requests, right? At least you have the excuse of small space. The only excuse I can use is when someone is sick. "We don't want you to catch germs. Sorry."

there are a select few i dont mind entering "unanounced", for others i wont even answer the door even if i know that they know im here, dependant on mood.

family isnt a guarantee in my case but most of them call first, most people that know me know they should call as well.

There is a very short list of who comes to my house...
My roommates.
My significant other.
My two best friends (they are married)
my assistant director
and my business partner/co-director.

That's it. I don't like people in my home at all

17 years and she wants to come to your house with children? That's bizarre. I wouldn't really talk to her either. I guess it would be appropriate to meet for a light meal or beverage if you did want to see her again, but no one could blame you for not inviting her over.