not sure if i can deal with the neurotypical lifestyle anymo

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Wtf is the point? I cant even get along with my close friends anymore. My social issues, create monumental problems between myself and every important action i need to execute to perform in this society.

Well I cant deal with society as is. There is no hope for someone like me. I dont wish to belone to the comformity that involves sucessful life in this country. Would rather live in the woods by myself. Ugh

I don't know about living in the woods. Maybe back in the day, but not today. Too many freaks. I'd be looking over my shoulder all the time.

The creeps in the woods scare me less than the creeps in the social world. I could handle isolation was my point i guess. I have just been faking it too long i guess and cant stand to pretend to be someone i am not any longer. Regardless of the friendships or relationships it destroys.
I honestly think I could better tolerate any type of apocalypse environment, then the one i live in now. And if not , at least, i would hopefully be over it when I am ended

tthporter, could you -at least if you don't mind- go into some more detail and give some examples?

This is not because your opening post is vague to me or anything, but I should say I've been feeling something similar to what you're describing here, for the past week or so.
Though the thing I now have most problems with, is the 'dog-eat-dog' mentality in society. I've been doing job interviews, aqnd everytime I have to present myself as if the job is 'my dream job', plus I'm forced to mask my weak points, even though it's my opinion that it's best to also bring forth weak points along with your strong points when you're getting ready to accept ANY task, if just for the sake of honesty, but more importantly, for the sake of people knowing exactly who and what they're dealing with when they hire someone.

BESIDES that job-related stuff, I've experienced that as I grow older, it actually gets more difficult somehow to socialize with other people, especially people my age? What the heck?! Most other people in general are more adept at socialising with one another than I am, I am absolutely terrible at small talk, and would prefer to talk more about in-depth topics... when I talk to anyone at all.

So yeah, of late I have been looking at the world around me, and thought: Why would I want to be a part of any of this?

A few weeks here at Twin Oaks, you might have a new opinion on that. Woods creeps have their own society. Society, all it takes is three people: 2 in, and you're out.

I know what you mean. I compromised and have my own bush retreat but still work full time. It makes it things bearable.

It's my dream to save up enough money to do some subsistence agriculture on a plot of land and build a small home and use solar/alternative energy so I have the option to interact as little as possible with the outside world. I feel more comfortable with more control over my own fate, and I think that not having to rely on others for food/energy/other makes me feel a lot better.

Hehe, i like this one!

If you're living in the woods there will come a day you start hating mosquitoes or the rutting cries of moose that won't let you sleep or, as i do, the blind drivers who run over my mailbox three times a week.

In the end, faking makes no sense and i've given up on it. Now, in my fifties, i behave as quirky as i want to -- mind you, without infringing laws. But if i feel like stimming or talking to a traffic sign, i simply do it. People here know i wouldn't hurt a fly. However, i am aware that finding a job can be tricky nowadays. Anyway, good luck!

There was a lady who lived in the woods and managed to find a way to leech internet and she had a myspace set up, very NSFW stuff though since she never wore clothes. If you have the means I'd say go for it, but I feel like at the rate our society is going there won't be much forest left to hide in anyway. For the "freaks" just get yourself a handgun or knife, that should be more than enough.

There's no such thing as society. I try to stick to one-on-one in my dealings with people, which is at least simpler than trying to keep up with a whole bunch of 'em.

When everything is going my way (it isn't at the moment), I live in the woods, usually without running water, sometimes without electricity. If you can make it work to live in the forest with minimal amenities, I highly recommend it. Just be ready for a steep learning curve (life is different there), and, as someone suggested, get a gun. Don't use it (except to learn how), just talk guns with locals from time to time, and act just crazy enough so that they wonder if you might use it. Works like a charm. Required for southern forests. Entirely unnecessary in Vermont.

Actually, I guess I do live in the woods at the moment, it just doesn't feel the same when I have plumbing, electricity, and neighbors.

Vanhalenkurtz, all I can say, in our local vernacular, is bless your heart for sticking it out at twin oaks. I've lived in various communities and visited twin oaks. In my opinion, intentional communities, though extremely well-meaning, aren't very aspie friendly. The social rituals and expectations are even more intense than in regular NT society, and non-community-approved eccentricities are not tolerated well.