I don't understand why some things are "personal"

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I really do not understand why things like sex and religion are personal. I'm not sure if this is an aspie thing or not. I've really never had a problem sharing my own thoughts on the two.

Is this an aspie thing? To be too quick to share personal information? or to not understand why some things are "personal" ?

i know i used to shock people by sharing info often that they thought was too personal. i know better (most of the time) now.

Exactly! I guess its just a social norm that I never picked up on....

Because people are so insecure in the area of sex its better left unsaid to avoid social snafus.
I dont talk about sex, religon or politics to people who arent "close" except here in the forams that allow a sertan amont of anonimity.

Many "personal" topics are also topics in which people have many different opinions about and feel strongly. For example (JUST EXAMPLE) I were to say I worshipped Satan and believe having sex with goats is the only way to go (I don't in either case btw lol) some people would have strong opinions about that. To a lesser degree the topics of sex, religion and politics are ones that often incite others to voice their differing opinions on those subjects and just as often attack those whose view differs from theirs.

I'd admit that, yeah, as an aspie, I sometimes don't know what topic is off limits.

<----- Known for going too far.

I've shared a lot of personal things with my closest friends and on WP. When I'm on WP, I talk about anything that pops into my head. I've lost a few friends on here as a result. I try my hardest not to be too personal on here, in fear that the same thing will happen again.

If I had time to think about that logically before I brought up one of those "personal" topics, I would probably be fine most of the time, but since conversation requires such an answer immediately, I don't see the problem until it's too late and I'm trying to figure out what went wrong.

I took this interpersonal communication class at the community college and one time we went around and surveyed about what topics people would feel comfortable talking about with whom and almost all if not all of the topics I said I would be fine with talking to a stranger about, the only person in the class to feel that way.

I have this problem too--not about talking about sex, to avoid that topic was ingrained from an early age--but about other things. It seems when my mouth is open sometimes my brain switches off and I can't work out why not to say certain things.

As a rule of thumb, though: if you wouldn't want someone to say a thing about you, don't say it about them.

Sex, religion, and politics are all "hot button" topics. People often have very strong feelings concerning their views on issues in these 3 categories, so it is often a good idea to steer clear of these categories, to keep a get together from turning into a verbal, or even a physical brawl.

I can pretty much talk to most of my family about most things in these categories, except my sister. Her and her husbands views are very different from the rest of the family. At this point I am the only one left who is still able to talk to my sister, but I know not to bring up these topics. She can be a difficult person to deal with. That's why I was surprised when she finally got married, but her husband is more laid back, and they do get along well, so I am happy for them.

One of life's ironies: My sister and her husband never vote, because there are no candidates who meet their perfection requirements, but they have strong, and complaining views on politics.

My take is: If you don't vote, don't complain. You haven't earned the right to complain.

You have to be careful who you discuss these topics with, as things can sometimes get out of hand. If things seem to be heating up, it's best to change the topic to something safer, or to leave the room, or to leave the place you are at. Too many people today are so lacking in self control, that they will sometimes get physical over a difference of opinion in a discussion. Just this past week I saw a headline about two teenagers who physically attacked each other in a dispute over who made the best Koolaid! And I saw a headline either yesterday or today about two guys who attacked each other in a dispute over who was the better Mexican! So don't take chances. When talk gets heated, change the topic, or leave.

P.S. Don't anyone attack me over this, but in my personal opinion, Koolaid is non nutritional garbage, and tastes like chemicals (to me). With all the real juices out there now, I can't understand why anyone would drink this stuff. So drink real juices, not Koolaid.

Get thee behind my livestock, Omnicognic!!

Er.. wait... that didn't come out right...

That's because one day for an unknown reason people concluded that sex and pleasure were sins, so they were ashamed and also punished because of their sexuality, after some centuries this started to change, but people are still used to hide their sexuality, they don't care about the reason, they just learn from other people who are ashamed too, when someone talks about something "personal" the other people feel unconfortable and make him feel unconfortable too because he notices their discomfort or they tell him to shut up, so he learns to avoid the topic.

I have the same problem. I don't know what things are considered personal or not. People have told me I say things lot of people wouldn't normally say. I also am too open so I try and cut back on it.

Only things I know are personal are things I have been told that are personal so I am not to ask them about it because it's rude. I also do not ask others things I am not comfortable sharing with others nor would I want someone to ask me that question so I don't ask others that either.


I think religion is personal because it's a strong topic and it brings out strong feelings so people tend to try and preach it to you, make it out to be there is something wrong with you if you don't believe in god or if you do certain things that are considered a sin. No one wants to be told they are going to hell or how to live their lives. So people are not comfortable sharing their religion. Some religious people have no respect so they have a bad rep from me.

Sex, I have no idea. Maybe because people don't like to hear about it. I wouldn't want to hear about (too adult to list them). Plus I have noticed how men will try and shove it in my face and not accept the fact I am a prude and I find lot of it sick. My mother tried two months ago and it felt like the first time ever it's happened in real life. Maybe I should include first ex and husband. Yeah I don't like talking about it because then men make it out to be there is something wrong with me and get pushy telling me I need to try this and that and I just remember one of my online friends used to tell me I would never get a guy if I am not into sex and another person also used to tell me that too and maybe few other men but I don't speak to them anymore. All it did was it made me resent it and not like it in a way most people like it. Gee maybe that I why my sex drive is so low.

<----- Doesn't like religion shoved down his throat. Curry goat? That's okay.

I kind of get it. In my way. For me, sex, religion and politics are totally boring. So I'm not interested in hearing about any of those topics.

Also with things like income, age, and weight. I don't understand why it's rude to ask someone about those. Like with the weight, me knowing what you weigh is not going to change how fat or skinny you look, and with age it's not going to change how old you look. It doesn't make sense.