What is love?

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What is your definition of love? Have you ever been in love before? What does it feel like for you?

I ask because I don't think I really understand it. The closest I think I get to "love" is being kind of "obsessed" with someone-having to find out everything about them, like an interesting subject. Once exhausted in my *obsession* I'm pretty much over it. I know this must sound incredibly callous, but I am being honest. I have problems with other emotions as well, but "love" is something that has always more than perplexed me. Thoughts?

love is a combination of wanting to spend time with someone along with being willing to work for what's best for them.

My definition: a bunch of chemicals in your brain making you act strangely.

I've been in several relationships - right now though I'm not in one and I'm not looking to be in one. In retrospect I don't think the good feelings I had from it were worth the time and effort and such that had to go into it. I would rather spend that time on my special interests - mainly music. Maybe it's strange that I'd rather sit alone and play instruments, maybe sad, but it doesn't feel that way to me.

A second hand emotion according to Tina Turner.

Nothing. Just ask any tennis player.

Good question.
One of the problems with this question is the misinformation that gets spread. Perhaps people think that the 'romantic drama' that they see on screen can help us understand feelings of love?
The attitudes of popular music performers, as laid out in their lyrics, also tend to convey some strange messages about just what it is that boys and girls do when attracted to one another.

How's this? Love is the freedom to think whatever you like about the people in your life, and it is the freedom to explore the meaning of your relationship with someone.
That's just my opinion though.

I love all of these responses!

Love is not as good as it sounds.

What a great topic for post.

Presumably you are discounting the parent / child relationship, which is different due to a certain inexorability, a definite degree of implicit authority, plus its nonsexual exchange. You are speaking of "partnership."

Emotional exchange is at the heart. Willingness to make sacrifices for a satisfying "return." Day to day compatibility.

I really have no clue. Married twice, 2 children, almost all of it up in fog. My last tenable relationship was 20 years ago, and she was a medicated schizophrenic.

What pains me are the occasions where I've felt a great friendship got undone by sexual intrigues. Hormones lead people to ruin their lives.

That's what 52 years taught me and it's barely enough to fill a thimble.

Baby don't hurt me!