Living with other people.

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I'm seriously overloaded and in partial shutdown at the moment.

There are four other adults, one teenager, an infant, and two dogs in this house.

They keep moving around, speak incessantly, stomp, slam doors open, slam doors shut. I can't function with all this going on. When I tried to get food earlier, four people followed me into the kitchen and essentially parked there, so I took my coffee and a donut and left, and have been in my room for the six hours since.

How can people be so noisy all the time? What is wrong with them that they just keep piling noise on top of noise on top of noise, and do they ever stop talking?

Is living alone a reality-based option for you? If it isn't, is telling them to be quiet an option?

I really don't know why they are so loud...

...but I feel your pain.
Thanks goodness I live with less people (living with family consisting of brother (currently not at home), mother and father), yet it is still cruel at times.

I experience a similar situation quite regulary... When I'm (close to being) overloaded and have to eat downstairs in the noise, I usually prefer to take my stuff and just disappear into my room and shut the door - but then my father starts to complain in a loud voice that I should stop doing so and doesn't stop until I turn around, go back and stay there until I'm done. This is still better than having to endure loud complaints all the time and having not a single moment of "silence", but it is a torture nonetheless. Trying to explain the situation another time utterly fails every single time and ends in an argument, so I gave up trying to explain it.
In such situations I also ask myself: "How can they be so loud and how can they endure this!?"

The best I can do is once again to tell you: I feel your pain.

If it were, I would be living alone right now.

Sylvastor,

At least no one complains that I eat in my room - at least not directly to me. Maybe they do to each other.

I know exactly what you mean. I lived in share accommodation for a few years when I was younger and it never worked out for all the reasons you've mentioned there and more. People are so goddamn freaking noisy and unpredictable. And no, some people never shut up, my mother being a prime example. She doesn't understand how I can be so quiet all the time.

I now live alone and will try to keep it that way, no matter how financially difficult it is. Sharing is so much harder.

I can seriously relate, there are 5 people here, as well as pets. My cousin is living with us at the moment and is in the next room (I hear literally everything in the house), and he yells at his phone, his remote, he throws stuff when he gets super angry (he's middle aged lol). In addition to stomps, very loud laughter, and dogs that are (literally) constantly barking at every little thing... I tend to try to not get slightly annoyed by it all.

I've lived alone at one point (a few years) but I didn't have any internet (and wouldn't because I can't afford it on my own), and thus; no human interaction. The quiet was nice, and I slept pretty well, but it got lonely very fast.
Having said that I would live alone again if I had some internet connection (ideally).

I forgot to answer this:

Unfortunately, no. Even if they did bother to listen, they'd stop doing it very quickly. These people are just noisy, and I have no idea how it is remotely possible I am related to any of them.

Jaden,

I would be fine living alone if I had internet. Without internet I'd get bored fast because so much of my entertainment depends on the internet.

I think a lot of it is pure thoughtlessness. No one really cares about the impact their behavior has on anyone else.

Seriously, I understand. I currently reside in a house with three other adults, an adolescent, and 9 pets. I feel like I'm going to go insane most of the time, even when they aren't being loud or particularly crowding me, I just feel trapped. Hopefully, I'll be able to move by Fall.

Today was the worst. I felt like I couldn't leave my bedroom because there was so much noise and people charging all over the house. And they just would not stop.

Yeah, me too (though I have games and movies as well, they wouldn't last long lol), plus everyone I talk to is on the internet only lol.

Yeah, the limited amount of content with no internet is horrible. I'd end up leasing space in the public library.

Not that such would be a bad thing.

Sometimes a one-person army keeps me in my room for the whole day, and yeah, it's even worse when there are more people.

I live in mental health supported housing and it makes me shutdown / go non-verbal on a weekly basis due to the stress of sharing, so I can understand. The carers have no clue about autism.

Yeah, some supported housing I've read about is not very good for autistic people. Stuff like sharing the common living area (kitchen, living room) and sharing bathrooms with much of a floor.

I just want a place where I can put all my stuff, have a cat, and not have to be accountable to other people in that space.

I do feel your pain. I live in a shared place with strangers (Not supported housing) but everyone stays in their room, when there is noise it drives me bonkers. Same when i'm in the shower and hear any sort of door close...it just makes me jump. Noise oh how it puts me on edge.

I have thought this as well.

I think I have some other source of noise that makes up for the "lack of people" here:
Directly on the other side of the narrow street is a construction site. In spring they demolished an old house (dated from about WWI times), then they evened the ground, they started building and right now they're still at it and I doubt it will be done before late spring or mid summer.
Meanwhile, when there was silence over there, I was not able to enjoy it. I had to endure even more noise caused by my family:
Renovation of the cellar, new furniture, etc.. I regulary freaked out.

Verdandi, maybe earplugs would do any good?
I considered them since autumn, but I still didn't buy any, so I can't tell if they would be any help.
The most important factor for a decision would be if they are comfortable or not (for me).