I'm scared of living on my own!

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So my parents may be facing foreclosure and I might be forced to look for my own place. I've lived with my family all of my life and I have to say the thought of living on my own is overwhelming! I'd probably have to either find a friend to get a place with, or rent a room from a stranger (as a college student, I can't afford my own apartment)

Does anyone else fear moving out? I think such a big change is frightening!

Hi roninninja its scary at first I remember when I first moved out on my own I was nervous but it was something I wanted to do now I'm glad I did I have my independence.

The thought of moving out scares the s**t out of me. It's the big change of it that I can't even cope with thinking about. I feel like I'm being turfed from my comfort zone and put into a place what I'm not even sure about, just to make my family happy because apparently I'm ''too hard to live with''. But I don't want to live on my own. People can persuade me and persuade me that ''oh at first it's scary but you will get to like it, I promise you'' but I cannot imagine me living on my own. Maybe in a few years I might change my mind and feel that I want to have my own independance, but at the moment my anxieties are at it's highest and I am going up the doctors to see if I can go on medication for it this week. But at the moment I've lost all courage to come out of my comfort zone when I can't even cope with the stress of finding a job at the moment. Also I still don't feel ready to just up and leave home. I know I'm 22 and ''should be'' old enough for everything, but don't forget my horrible AS s**t does make me a few years behind in maturity and responsibility-handling, and I wish to wait a few years then move out, if I can. And I prefer to move somewhere with a partner, like most people do. Life changes gradually then: you see them, you fall in love, and you want to be with them so much that you decide yourself that you want to find a small place with him and go from there. But I don't want to just up and leave next month. I feel the change is sudden, and anyway, I find being alone for too long drives me to depression, and I find I get lonely at nights when I'm home on my own.

Besides, I cannot afford to move out. At least wait 'til I get a job!

My advice is to move out before you have too. At least then it's on your own terms. If you start looking now it will give you an idea of what's out there in your budget. If you wait till you have too you may not have time to find what you want and get stuck with the first place you have the money for.

I live with my mother and I'm going to live with her the rest of her life but unless I die first I'll be living alone after she is gone. I wouldn't be able to stand living with anyone else and they wouldn't be able to stand me.

I've done it. I didn't find it scary living with friends, I loved it. Living alone was a bit scary at first....more lonely than scary but you get used to it. Make sure that you invite friends over if you live completely alone.

I miss living alone. I miss my privacy and dignity. I'm hoping to move out soon.

If you're like me, it might be a good idea to go ahead and circle around the idea a bit anyhow.

Total up the funds that will be available, both lump sum and income, and list your options. Would it be possible to get into a dorm? Are you in an area where a mobile home might be an idea? Besides being very economical to buy, they are often available for rent, often for less than an apartment. Look for efficiency apartments too -- they can often be very economical, esp in a college town.

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I think I will live in my parents home forever, I finished school with pretty bad marks, not planning going to university or getting a job. This is just too hard for me. I hate stupid city life, I rather live alone in lonely island than in this over populated place, I'm sick of people.

If I do become too hateful to live with and end up having to get out and live somewhere on my mind, I will invite lots of men back. Men seem to want you more when they know you don't live with your parents because men seem afraid of girl's parents, especially their dads.