Are you aware of when you make noise??

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This seems to be an ongoing problem for me, an Aspie, and affects my wife. When she's gone to bed already and I'm cleaning up in the kitchen or whatever, she has come out of the room and angrily accused me of "banging around". I don't notice anything!! ! and tell her so. Yet she insists that I'm making noise. The odd time I'm clumsy and bang a pot against another when I'm putting it away, but sometimes I swear I don't recall making any noise. This has actually happened in my youth, as a teen, I was frequently accused by my stepmom of "stepping too hard" or closing things loud when she was still upstairs sleeping. Despite my best efforts to avoid it. Also I frequently unintentionally broke things, like doorknobs, from applying too much pressure.

I thought this might be an autism spectrum thing, but what combo of symptoms, I guess opinions may differ. I chalk it up to diminished awareness of body movement, hence the "non-verbal dyslexia" that accompanies Aspergers - this goes hand-in-hand with somewhat deficient motor skills. Whereas NTs seem to intuitively know how much pressure to apply in a manual task, or are more "guided" in their typical movements. I thought it might also have to do with not instinctively picking up on one's environment and the fact that others may be sleeping so adjust your movement according, but that seems more of a secondary factor, b/c I was very much aware of those surrounding circumstances (but suspect that action may have been disconnected from awareness, if that makes any sense).

When I lived with my parents, they'd always give me s- for talking too loudly and making a grunting sound. I never noticed it. This is why it's great to live by yourself

I don't really have problems with waking people up - I'm told I'm very quiet, even when moving my very heavy, very numerous music gear back into the house late at night after band practices and gigs. This includes objects that are very cumbersome and over 100 pounds. But my house is large enough that I can talk full volume in my room without waking others.

I very often am making noise without realizing it, though. I often make vocalizations and just noises with my mouth and other body parts, and don't realize it until someone points it out or until I stop. This also includes singing, humming, whistling, and other noises like that.

I'm not so sure about me making too much noise banging stuff around, but I know that I sometimes unknowingly speak too loudly.

me, too.

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i don't know why i so often talk too loudly, it is as though my hearing mechanism doesn't transmit to my awareness enough of my vocal volume. but other than my speaking voice, i have long been aware of making too much noise.

I don't have to worry too much, as I live alone, but I do have to not play radio or TV too loud at night when the windows are open, as I live in a trailer park, and the trailers are not all that far apart. If I have the fans on, it can be hard to hear the radio and TV, though. I'm not too bad at playing them too loud, though. I found out that I can barely hear them through the open window, if I leave them on when I go out to move the garbage cans. So if I can't hear them too good from outside, then the neighbors shouldn't be able to hear them much if at all from an even farther distance, and from inside their trailers.

As for your problem. Do the cleaning up and any other possibly noisy activities before your wife goes to bed. Problem solved!

Alas, I'm almost always talking to myself, fairly loud, night & day. Just narrating my guts, sugar-coated with a lather of malapropisms, some of which make the grade in my poems. If I was anyone but me, I couldn't stand living with me.

I talk to myself almost constantly, as well. I often will also do it in public or when in the company of others. All the time, my mom and sister think I'm talking to them when I have to explain "I'm talking to myself." or "I'm talking to (object)." I very often speak to objects as well.

I've been told I slam doors and cupboards at night, but I really try to close things quietly, and other people who live in this house are also up and around late and often open and close doors and cupboards. Yet somehow I'm always the one responsible for the noise.

I'm the exact opposite. I try to be extremely quiet, especially if it's late. I've always hated noise. Even as a child I always played silently and covered my ears when there were other children around. I don't even hear music normally, I always put on headphones so I won't disturb anyone.

I'm usually the one who would get angry if you're loud.

I do this too. People look at me funny at work and my husband thinks I'm mad at him. But I can't help it.

Oh, and I'm apparrently noisy in the kitchen, too. I'm always making my husband think I'm angry, slamming dishes around. But I told him that until we get paper dishes and cloth pots and pans, he's just going to have to get over it.

Heh. Me too.

I know when I am making noise, in fact I try not to. I think some of it is when people have a hearing problem. My dad was hard of hearing and banged dishes - I can't stand it! Worse is my very NT brother in law, who is a doctor and speaks loud all the time, very extroverted, and talks all the time. He smells all the time, too but that is another thread.

I get caught up in talking to myself and I don't notice until a bit later, then I start going on a long commentary about how I'm talking to myself. People aren't particularly fond of it.

I talk and laugh way too loud though. All my friends and family keep telling me to tone it down a notch.

Not usually aware of making too much noise, no.

I'm told I type too loudly.

I'm told that I bang dishes around and close doors loudly - particularly at night - and walk loudly too.

I also often talk too loud too, I used to sometimes talk too quietly, but I think that depends on whether I know the person well or not and I don't think it happens often now.

I'm not usually aware of any of this, but I try to becareful when it's pointed out.