Neurotypicals and what annoys me about many of them

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Ok having Aspergers I can not form relationships and when I do make friends I treat them right.

Why do so many get into relationships and then have affairs and cheat?

It seems to me many can talk the talk to get into relationships but they can not walk the walk.

There are loads of decent NTs but they seem to be blind to the cheats and abusers.

I judge people by their actions not by their body language or smooth personality.

I see many women fall for some maggot and end up stuck with the children.

My sister married a total waste of space and I could see it from the start by his actions.

I may be blind to social cues and body language but can body language and social cues make NTs blind to facts?

Maybe you should start Judging people by there Intentions or perhaps stop being judgmental all together? You might feel more accepted if you be more accepting

Actually, many people of the spectrum get "into affairs and cheat" too. The dynamic isn't restricted to NTs. I know a number of Aspies on this site who are on their second or third marriage, and from I've read here Aspies often seem to be less bound to strict monogamous relationships than NTs!

Been wondering about this sometimes too, and my conclusion is that NT's don't see what's actually there but much more what they wish to be true. You can observe this behavior on many levels, not only their relationships, but also in regards to religion or spirituality.

Whenever i say, there is no god, never was, and never will be, someone says, you must believe it. And i say, why? There is no next world, no resurrection, no reincarnation because that's not the way nature works, it's only wishful thinking or a mass psychosis, at least a very distorted idea of what reality is like.

There are such guys and also many females who intentionally abuse others and take advantage of them. That's a fact and that you say it has nothing to do with being judgmental. There are statistics about domestic violence.

Many NT's possess weird concepts about reality and believe in idiotic proverbs like "Love Conquers All," and i assume after the first violent marital strife they rather decide to ignore reality in order to protect their wishful thinking about how things should be.

I read a scientific article a couple of months ago which said women make poor choices while ovulating and they will ignore obvious facts because their hormones make them choose the fittest male (sexy, dominant) over the responsible, tender, caing guy. So apparently hormones have to do with poor choices.

I also read a book saying mapen cheat because their primary instinct is to spread the seed, so their hormones lead them to get into bed with as many women as they can. So apparently for men instincts are responsible for cheating.

Perdonally I do not buy that crap. I do have hormones and I learned quickly which guys you just do not date no matter much you like them. And my husband of 17 years is extremely faithful. Has always being. So are we abnormals?

What annoys me is they won't support you . Look at my wife I accept I have as and she just bails for at least 6 months , possibly for ever. Divorce rate between as -nt is high because I reckon that the nt ignores the aspies good points