Does this count as talking about your obsession?

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I have kept going on and on about my obsessions with my husband over the years and managing to bring them up in almost every topic even if it be for a few seconds. That's one of the reasons why he stays in our bedroom, to get away from me and that.

But lately it has been less now because I have been too focused on something else and now I talk about that now. But when I say to my husband "I didn't talk about Titanic?" or say 'I didn't talk about it yet have I?" "I haven't been talking about it lately have I" he goes "Yeah you do?" and I ask him "when?" and he said 'Now."

He thinks me saying I have not talked about it lately counts as me talking about it. He told me to just go online and ask other people and they will say the same thing so that is what I am doing.

I would have thought you were referring to it rather than talking about it. You were talking about talking about it.

If you talked at length about it and then said "but I've been talking a lot about it now haven't I?" then if the listener had been having trouble following the obsessional depth of the talking, they would be relieved that you'd shown signs of realising what you'd done.

I guess you might have been about to do it the other way round, saying you hadn't talked about it as a request to begin to do just that.

I think he may have been joshing with you.

Saying ''I am not talking about my obsession'' does not count as talking about it, in my opinion. But I think once somebody knows you are obsessed, they just start accusing you of always talking about them when you're not.

A similar thing happened to me with my friends at school who I used to talk about my obsessions a lot to (I was obsessed over man I used to fancy, not in a normal way but in a severely obsessive way). And one day in a lesson I was writing something to do with him on the table, and my friends thought I was writing something about them, so at breaktime they asked me what I was writing on the table and I said the truth, I was writing about the man I was obsessed with, and my friends just said, ''see, you're talking about him again!! !'' and I was like, ''no, that was what I was writing! I can't tell you what I was writing unless I say it, can I?!''

You're right, he's wrong. Because when you're talking about it like that, it's called meta--communication, a communication about communication, whereas he seems to take the words extremely literally, what makes me wonder if he's the nitpicky type. What you say is more like a feedback--loop than an actual conversation about the topic.