Who else is entertained by doing non-aspie things?

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Last night, I went out to a bar with friends, caught up with old acquaintances, and met some new ones. It was a very successful night, and every one of my interactions went well. I blended in perfectly, and for some reason this gave me a very entertaining feeling of "Hah, I'm fooling everybody, they have no idea at all I'm aspie." I just feel like I'm infiltrating something even though I know I'm not.

Who else gets this feeling?

Concerts and fencing aren't exactly aspie things, but I have fenced other aspies before so yeah...

In limited doses I can. Bars have way too many people there for me to ratchet the anxiety down. Usually my best times at 'infiltrating' are when I visit relatives and go out somewhere with them

I am into watching sports, but of what i was reading, that is not a common ASD trait.

I go to groups here. I leave my home sometimes. I sometimes read on celebrity gossip when something on the cover catches my interest and it makes me so curious. I have been to concerts in the past but not many. I have done to dances and proms and liked parties when I was little. I have met guys from online and I felt so NT.

Non-aspie things...? Like not being random?... I'd die without that.

Yes, definitely............I watched a lot of sit-coms at one point in my life and enjoyed them. I can also enjoy reading books (fiction) that is mainstream and completely non-factual (not sci-fi or historical fiction) and what interests me about them are the characters and the relationships between them. For awhile I was quite obsessed with Charles Dickens novels -David Copperfield is my favorite of his novels because of the wonderful characters. Also I was obsessed with "The Babysitters Club" series and its derivatives "pet sitters" and "baby sitters' little sisters" series as a kid. I enjoyed a lot of classic novels that I had to read in high school ,"To Kill A Mockingbird", "Of Mice and Men" etc. Now I spend quite a lot of time reading fantasy novels.

Also, I enjoy posting on these forums which involves introspection and relating to others as well as what I consider communicating with others......on these forums we have a sort of polylog (dialog with many ppl) going about issues that effect our lives.

I frequently go to these kind of 'Indonesian market' things... that are basically small-scale cultural fairs with stuff you can buy, food you can eat, and performances of music and dance. It's always very crowded, and you can get addressed by random strangers, but in these particular situations, I'm okay with it! Because pretty much everyone there reminds me of my grandparents, and aunts, and cousins, so it's like I'm among one big extended family.

Also, I listen to a lot of pop music. It's almost the only music I listen to. But then, so do Knives and LaConvivencia, so at least I'm not alone in that.

I don't make a habit of it, but because people are one of my special interests, I would leap at the chance to do something a little awkward if I thought I could learn something.
Especially if I could set up some social experiments!

An ex-workmate of mine oftens posts about parties at his place (dubbed the 'Playboy Mansion'). I have been thinking about what it would be like if I turned up.
Though if all it is involves really is inebriated, easy women, I probably will not find it very stimulating.

yes sometime
but used to hang out with freinds in norwich since i moved theys been less freinds

I found it fun to do that Aspie "breakout" thing when I was younger. Didn't know I had AS but I was extremely dissatisfied with my introverted behaviour and wanted to disprove the idea that I was stuck with it.......always saw myself as sociable....so at the peak I was doing things like going alone into a pub one lunchtime and engaging in small talk with some people at the bar. It was always my ambition to enjoy a party. I more or less achieved that a few times, though it was always kind of spoiled by the constant risk of getting ignored if the mix of people weren't relaxed and inclusive enough, and of that extra intense loneliness that happens in crowds when you can see them engaging with each other but not with you.

These days I really can't be arsed. I enjoy engaging with individuals, one-on-one, and with small, safe-looking groups. The one-on-one people tend to introduce me to their circles. Sometimes I enjoy that too. Being a musician helps....people invite me to do music with them.

I'm happy to push the envelope and test out my impairments, but these days I know how extreme my enthusiasm can be, and that the effort can drain me without my knowing it, and with social things, I don't want to set precedents that I can't sustain. On the other hand, it's not all about draining batteries. It's also about experience, learning over the years how to talk to people and to feel more at ease with them. Stick to a few basic rules and most adults won't be a problem for you, so this privacy wall of mine maybe ought to have a few more open doors in it.

So non-nerdy activities are non-"Aspie"? Whatever. I do what I want.

I don't go to bars, don't drink or don't smoke cigarettes. However, I love to cook, experimenting with my own recipes. I need to get out and drive to the stores to blow some money whether it is for necessity or pleasure. I do like to do some socializing if I can and then go back home to be in my own little world again, which gives me comfort and security as an Autistic adult.