chiastic_slide wrote:
I can relate about asking questions. The really obvious things to ask that lead in naturally from what the person is talking about don't seem to occur to me until after the event, sometimes hours later when I'm at home and I'm analysing the conversation, other times when the conversation has changed topic and I can't go back. When things go quiet and I have to ask a question I sometimes flinch, wondering how the question will be taken, hoping it is appropriate, as in the past I have asked some really obscure random stuff, not offensive or anything, but just wierd questions or something that doesn't even make logical sense to the person in that scenario and I get bad reactions.
I do that too. Sometimes it's obvious even to me that the question is off-the-wall and doesn't belong in the flow of conversation but it's all I've got so I try to play it off as me just being sort of hyperactive or caffeinated and cheerful. I think people don't appreciate the change in topic, especially if they really wanted to talk about whatever it was, but maybe it's better than being silent. And if I do it in a really cheerful way people smile and it's not that bad. It makes me look really immature but there's nothing I can do about that.