Can someone with Asperger's be outgoing?

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Is there a type of aspie that's awkward yet extroverted at the same time. Ya know, someone with bad social skills that loves social occasions?

Yes. A lack of social inclination is not the same as a lack of social skills.

Daywalkers.

Hey, we are people, not diagnostic criteria. I always did well when the social situation resonated with my special interest, or if the people were trustworthy, or if I was drunk. That last option carries a severe expiration date so I'd suggest grabbing ahold of the first two. Or, better yet, invent yourself as you see fit. Use only as directed.

yeah people like me.

My son is very social and chatty when he is with his friends (most of whom are either younger than him or less socially challenging is some way, on the spectrum etc)

I've met an extroverted Aspie. She's really chatty, but the trouble is she makes more social errors than I do. That might be because I'm more quiet and so I have more time to think of what to say, whereas she just blurts out everything that comes into her mind and doesn't seem to know whether she's upset someone or not. I think I'll rather be a quiet Aspie than a loud Aspie, if you know what I mean.

But I'm only too quiet because I worry too much of what others might think of me.

Absolutely, social skills can be learned. I think some on the spectrum want to make friends, ie are inclined to want meaningful relationships, but often don't know how to initiate them or act inappropriately when presented with the opportunity. This used to make me not want to interact with people, but when I finally accepted who I was as a person and I stopped trying to be "normal" and just be myself, I was able to be more free in social situations,like at school or work. I also worked REALLY hard at learning to read social cues and body language...which I'm much better at now.

I'm one of those outgoing Aspies.

I used to be outgoing and then realized it didn't do anything for me.

I'm more socially adept when I'm watching interactions instead of participating,

But yes, there CAN be extroverted Aspies.

I can be amazingly outgoing when there is no ongoing risk.

So I'll start up a conversation with someone in the next seat on an airplane, but I clam up on meeting a new coworker. Knowing I won't see someone ever again helps me not care if I mess up or what they think. Being forced to share space with someone changes that dramatically.

I can be very outgoing, it depends on the situation/type of people around me at the time.

I know a few aspies who I would describe as outgoing. I can also be very outgoing around people as I tend to feed off their energy, but when I'm not directly around them, I'm a total introvert.

I make friends better than most of us, most people can't even tell I have anything.