Mootoo wrote:
Do you ever notice them? I think we know they're neurotic because they're the sort of things we do that neither benefit ourselves or others, and yet we're compelled to do them without any pleasure to ourselves. I think that the more traits we have the less happy we are - this isn't simply personality, these traits appear to be remnants of broken experiences.
I have something with
control. I think this problem is easily founded by a lack of it in dire circumstances.
I cannot put myself into things with
unknowns, aka trust isssues.
These tendencies range from: afraid of deep water, to working under a car supported by jack stands, etc.
But, I took swimming lessons at 5 and I couldn't stomach or fathom swimming over the drain of the pool. I would look down at the man hole as I was swimming over them and causing me to get the 'butterflies' in my stomach. I was deathly afraid, but I knew I had to swim to satisfy the instructor - the two I balanced and did it anyway - but by myself
never. Why at 5? I never had a bad experience as I had an easy childhood.
My guess is that the template is there for this irrationality, and a bad experience makes it instone.
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