Hidden Aspergers?

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Everyone I've ever told I have aspergers always say something like "aspergers?! But you seem so normal!"
When something happens these people also laugh at me for acting weird. I find this highly annoying as they should know better.

I also remember a teacher I had who knew I had aspergers always did sudden things like trip me up or jab me in the back suddenly and unexpectedly. (I'm sure many of you guys know how bad this can be) He didn't target me as such, I think he inended to be a fun guy but it still got me worked up all the time, especially since he knew about my AS.

The next thing makes me feel like an idiot because looking back on it I really did seem like an idiot. We got into a heated debate (can't remember why) and he told me I had "a chip on my shoulder."
I then looked at my shoulder and said, "but there's nothing on my shoulder"
I was then sent to the timeout room.

Why the hell does this happen to me? It's not life ruining by any means but it sure is annoying.

Is it because "I seem so normal?"

Nobody else get this kind of thing?

I get told I'm weird and stuff a lot, but at the same time I suppose I could come off normal.

You mean you could because you wanted to? Or is that not what you mean?

I wish lol. I try my best I can.

The reaction I get when I mention possibly having AS to others has ranged from "I thought there was something different about you" to "you communicate too well." It seems like those who know me well tend to think that AS seems to fit me, while people who are mere acquaintances don't see it as much.

Related: This blog post got brought up in a different thread here, but I thought it was relevant to this thread, too:

http://www.aspiestrategy.com/2012/05/hi ... dults.html

When people prod me for fun I get very close to punching them in the face. At least one time I actually did do that, someone snuck up and touched me behind me and I swung on them. I pretty much only instinctively hit someone if they sneak up on me, though. I view people play hitting me or touching me as an act of aggression, not them being funny, that's partially due to life experience, though. If I like, know who the person is, and know they're not a "threat" then I can avoid hitting them, but if I'm surprised, I view it as a threat and usually hit them or get close to hitting them. I don't have tolerance for people who do it more than once if I tell them plainly to stop.

Anyway, as far as Aspergers goes, well, it depends. I get two answers "Oh, you're just fine blah blah blah" then remarks after about how I'm weird like you're describing. Others, though, I bring up Aspergers and they're like "Oh yeah, that doesn't surprise me at all" especially my longtime friends.

I don't recall ever being called normal by anyone who knew me. Not sure I've got an experience to compare to yours.

Basically, I pretend to be normal with strangers by sticking to the scripts that seem to work. Then if I like someone, I let them inside and all the weirdness shows.

I have asked several people who have known me for a while if they think it is possible I have Aspergers. My best friend first asked me what it was and I explained it was a mild form of autism. His reply to that was "Oh yeah, definitely! When I first met you it was like you were from a different planet!". It's important to note that his son is on the spectrum too, so he knows what someone on the spectrum is like. We have even compared notes on how similar both my 22 year old self and his son are.

I talked to a co-worker about it and told him that I think I figured out what I have. His response? "Is it Asperger's Syndrome?" He knows a few aspies and says I am like a high functioning version of them.

A third friend I asked didn't want to be bothered and told me not to self-diagnose. I got him to read some of the Wikipedia article on it and he said that there are some similarities but he didn't think I have it. Then again, he was going through psychological and addiction problems of his own so I don't know how much faith I put in what he said.

My mom initially didn't think it was me either. Her only experience with an autistic person was in the mid 70's when she did student teaching at a place for learning disabled students. The girl she worked with was fairly severe and violent, so she thought that was how all autistic spectrum people were. However, after educating her further on the matter she agrees that I probably have it. She's also part of my self diagnosis as I have been asking her questions about how I was in early childhood to see if there is any merit to this.

Sounds like an as*hole:/

May l ask what decade this was? Even when l was in school in the 90s l was in Special Ed for a time. There were some kids there who were considered more special than me (maybe AS, maybe something else, maybe just not diagnosed) but all of us were treated pretty fairly.

Seems like a lot of you guys aren't being believed when you tell people about your Asperger's. This is actually what brought me to this site in the first place. Alot of people think I seem so normal that they just plain don't believe that I have any problems at all, after getting enough responses like this I have been driven up the wall. I am questioning myself, am I a fraud? Am I wrongfully claiming benefits for something I don't have? I have been diagnosed however!

The thing is. Questioning myself like this is making me feel anxious and I think I'm going mad.

Yeah, huh, people don't believe I have AS but strangers who I never met know there is definately something wrong by the way they treat me. I can hide my AS when socially interacting and meeting new people, so I must be hiding my AS when just walking down the street for crying out loud. Well, I know I do, I was only diagnosed with a mild case of AS, I have self-awareness to the extent NTs have, and anyway if I was doing something odd I would know it because I can sense if I feel different to the rest. Anyway my counsellor said that she has a son with a mild case of AS and she said that if he walked into this room you wouldn't even know he has anything at all until you really, really get to know him extremely well, even then you'd have to be told specifically about his condition. But otherwise his mild condition doesn't show just through walking.