How do you cope in social world we live in?

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I'd say people generally find me very difficult to deal with, I'm an High functioning Aspie, but I have my limits.
I can be very social at times, but others I regress away from people, and want to be left alone. Although I'm seen as socially capable, I constantly go to far with jokes, and my comments are usually to graphic, also I'm usually to honest. I'm not so aware of social boundaries, since everyone has their own rules.

I get constantly told, "you're far to intelligent to live the life you're living". Lots of people get tired of me talking in riddles, I've lost count on the amount of people I've put off talking to me, because apparently I discuss difficult subjects. I tried making friends with very Intellectual NT's, and even they couldn't deal with my topics. I ran out of places or people to turn to, if people in Uni/6thform, that are B to A grade students, cant deal with my topics whom can?

I hate small talk, its painful for me to talk about things I think are useless topics. Weather is the worst, a person says "its windy outside today" what do I reply to that? I just think "well there's bound to be something if not wind rain, if not rain both, so on so forth" Now if there was no weather that would be an interesting topic! Maybe I should move nearer to a volcano to make the weather topics more interesting Then at least I can say " looks like she's ready to blow her top" xD

I find most expect more of me than I can give, when no NT knows how draining it is to play normal all day long. If I don't play act I be myself, and no one likes a smart ass philosophy type around them. Why can't the Majority try harder to adapt to the Minority on the Autism Spectrum? It's unfair how I'm outcast just because I'm not Normal. People use me like a disposable battery, because I won't ever turn down a person that needs help.

I always end up the person that's heart broken, just because I have Aspergers and I'm easy to manipulate doesn't make it right. It's a sad world out there, and I do feel completely alone, even when there are many people around me. I go to great lengths to fit in, but a NT can't be bothered to learn about Autism, to make my life easier. I stopped trying to find relationships 2 years ago, it only creates stress and heart break for me, since I'm just used by girls to get out of hard relationships. I help and all I get is outcast and not even a friendship. Its like I'm the bad guy....

It's difficult to trust people, when you're own family hasn't even made much of an effort to learn about Aspergers. They've been told and nothing, they still treat me the same. It would be nice if I could be more open with them, but I can't when they don't bother learning about me. It's a difficult life to be on the Spectrum, the hardest part especially with family, is asking for help. I wish I could see my niece and nephew more, but I'm afraid to ask. Asking to go around to see family is always hard for me, because I'm not told when I can go around and how long I can stay. Which are the hardest things, knowing when its time for you to leave, and if they even want you to come and see them. If they did why don't they even ask?

I come from a high achieving family, and even they cant make more of an effort with me, my biggest fear is being open and getting rejected. :/

I'm with you on all of that.

I get very frustrated and exhausted just by being myself, which SHOULD be easy. Just today, I got called "bigoted and elitist" online... and it was by an autistic who should know better! So, I'm sure you can imagine how much worse it gets from NTs in person!

Sometimes, we just have to decide what is important and focus on that, then let the rest slide, because it's really not very important in the end... All I can do (and the same goes for you) is to be the best me that I can be and if there are people who don't like that, then just remember that it's those who are closest to you, who have always supported you, who really matter. I know that is easier in theory than in practice though.

Yep it's a hard old life for people on both ends of the spectrum....we can't seem to win either way
with AS we are all so different and coping wither you are a high function autistic person or at the lower end of the scale can be difficult for all of us...some can interact and be social others struggle like me...you know but in the end we just have to start loving who we are and stop trying to please..the so called NORMAL PEOPLE