new school help?

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ok so I'm going into high school this upcoming school year and I'm really really nervous because I'm switching school districts so none of my old friends will be there.

anyway, at my old school I was labeled as "that shy, awkward girl" and I don't want that to happen again. So, what are some tips on making friends? Also, during class when people talk and don't pay attention to the teacher, I tend to shutdown (instead of meltdown) witch labels me as quiet or snobby. So I don't even know what to do during that.

also, I'm always last to finish math tests. Like, 15 minutes after everone else is done, I finish. So every one has to do nothing for 15 minutes and then they stare at me as I walk up to hand the test to the teacher. Its so annoying!

and gym class. I'm going to have to change into gym clothes infront of all the other girls, and I'm helpless when in comes to sports or anything involving coordination so I'm planning on failing that class.

does anyone have any suggestions?

Join some lunchtime clubs or after school clubs?

You shouldn't plan to fail a class, by the way.

I know, that part was followes to be sarcastic but the internet is really the best place for sarcasm lol. And I'm planning on joining the band or art class.

Hum. That doesn't sound like any fun. Sounds damn familiar, too. Like, really, REALLY familiar. All of it.

The only solution I can think of is getting diagnosed. It won't help with your peers; I wouldn't recommend even telling them. But it might help with your teachers. Maybe you could get more time to do math tests outside the classroom so it's not so uncomfortable. And if your gym teacher adjusts his/her expectations appropriately, you won't end up with a crappy mark on your report card. I don't know what grade you're in, but eventually those F's from gym classes on your report card are going to matter.

If you don't want to change in front of other people, then could you change in the bathroom instead? I used to do that.

As for shutting down in noisy or otherwise intense social situations... let me know if you find a way around that. I'm 32 and I still do that. I go completely mute, stop moving and stare into space, like this: I'm married now, so usually my ultra-socially-savvy husband just smoothly takes over, answering questions for me, redirecting people's attention, and then gently walking me out of the environment. ...God, I am way too dependent on that man.

Can you change in a stall in the bathroom?

The last year I was in a normal school and was expected to change for gym was in sixth grade. I just flat out refused to do it and eventually started skipping gym and walking home because it was my last class of the day. I don't think it ever occurred to me to change in a toilet stall and if it did I might have been scared that bullies would peek or trap me in there.

Why are you still getting marked on sporting ability at your age? I'm guessing High School is 15-18- at that age you should just be doing it for fun, unless you actively want a qualification. It's insane if the fact that you were no good at sports can come back to bite you in the future.

Making friends- hang around with people who don't care if you aren't hosting parties or whatever. Generally such people actually have more friends than those who are deemed to be "popular".

At least in America, you are generally required to take physical education throughout high school. When I did, the grade did not count against my GPA as long as it was a D or better, but it depends on the school district on whether that grade is computed.