MrMark wrote:
Hi-
My name's Mark and I'm brand spankin' new to all of this. I'm 48 years old but I've only been an aspie for a few weeks now, not even officially diagnosed yet. Definitely a late bloomer. I got divorced a year ago and have been attempting on-line dating for the last couple of months and I'm pretty discouraged with it. It's just too hard, too much work, like socializing, LoL. However, I've just discovered this site and Aspie Affect. I've interacted a little with one young lady, JulieKitty, and one very young lady, Solidess, and I have thoroughly enjoyed myself. I never imagined socializing could so much fun, so much not like work. It is so nice to just feel free to just be my weird self and to feel so accepted. Now I know what I want, I want an aspie-girl! Now if I could just find one remotely close to my age and within 500 mi. of Tallahassee. Aspie Affect girls, you must post a photo, or at least some profile details. I'm typically available on-line evenings and weekends, and I'm looking forward to more e-socializing with aspies of all ages, sizes, shapes, colors and textures.
-Thanks so much for being here, Mark
Post Script:
Location: Tallahassee
Hobbies and Interests: Hiking, bird watching/listening, and computers
Favorite music: I don’t like listening to music, unless it’s something like Beethoven’s 9th and I turn it up really loud and I do NOTHING else.
Books: A. C. Clarke, especially “Songs of Distant Earth,” “Hidden Value” Harvard Business Press, “Different Like Me” by Jennifer Elder
TV shows/Movies: Enterprise, Two and a Half Man, Remains of the Day
Instrument: I play the piano, but only for the birds.
Family: Mom died on Mother’s day in 1993. Dad’s maybe an aspie, definitely an alcoholic. Brothers 2 and 5 years younger, sister 12 years younger, all NT and I never see them.
Clothing: White cotton button down shirts, ideal for Florida. I tried a blue one once, I didn’t look as good.
How did I find this website? Link at
http://www.orgsites.com/fl/tallahassee_ ... index.htmlJob: Half-time Senior Library Assistant
Plans for the future? What plans? Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.
Update: In August I became employed full-time at the FSU Library. I'm participating in an inventory of the collection, more than a million items. Should take 5-7 years. Boring, tedious, monotinous work for which I am ideally suited.
MrMark wrote:
Divorced, 1 year. We split June 10 and signed papers August 30 [2005], so I consider July 20 our anniversary, D-Day. I'm looking, but at each stage of my life it's been difficult to find potential partners in my age group.
MrMark wrote:
All right, here’s a kick in the head. I was checking my mail at Plenty Of Fish when I noticed a link at the bottom, “Who loves me?” I clicked on it to discover that I’m on two members favorites list, and one of them is a regular patron at my library! I’ve felt a little attraction for this woman and felt like maybe the feeling was mutual, which of course means I’ve been struck dumb in her presence. I’ve also gotten the idea she was seeing someone. She checked out a series of books on dating and the single life and that sort of thing, then her tastes changed and made me think she’d found somebody. I don’t remember the details. So, it looks like I’m going to have to take a deep breath and be brave and do something here. I’ll keep you posted.
Update: We had dinner together in a noisy happenin' place. She's pretty hot, but she likes to talk a lot. Nothing more came of it.
MrMark wrote:
I was routinely called “fa***t” throughout my school years. I understand now that it was an attempt by low-self-esteem NTs to pump themselves up by putting me down, making me one of “Them.” (Us vs. Them, the Evil Others) In fact, I grew up believing that homosexuality was a myth, a name kids called each other in the schoolyard. I mean, after all, women are so… and men are so… why would any man want to… Imagine my surprise when I got to collage and learned the truth.
There has been some name-calling on this site. Some have characterized me along the lines of dirty old man, pedophile, creep. Since coming here, I've been more surprised by the similarities between aspies and NTs than the differences.
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"The cordial quality of pear or plum
Rises as gladly in the single tree
As in the whole orchards resonant with bees."
- Emerson