How old were you when you learned to apologise...(1)

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How old were you when you learned to apologise when something WAS your fault?
0 - 3 yrs (or since before I can remember) 17%  17%  [ 4 ]
4 - 6 yrs 4%  4%  [ 1 ]
7 - 9 yrs 21%  21%  [ 5 ]
10 - 13 yrs 8%  8%  [ 2 ]
14 - 18 yrs 8%  8%  [ 2 ]
19 + 8%  8%  [ 2 ]
Still working on it... 29%  29%  [ 7 ]
Never tried/don't see the point 4%  4%  [ 1 ]
Total votes : 24

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05 Aug 2012, 9:52 am

...when something WAS your fault?


Please also answer the 2nd poll for when something WASN'T your fault? (click to link)


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05 Aug 2012, 10:07 am

although i checked "19+" the :idea: didn't really light up in me noggin 'till i was in my 40s, that i should apologize promptly and upon my own genuine volition, if i did something to hurt somebody else.



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05 Aug 2012, 12:36 pm

I think I have always apologized since I could talk. I didn't know what sorry meant and if a grown up told me to say it, I said it. I had no understanding of the situation then so the sorry was more fake then because I did not understand what was going on and why I was saying it.


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05 Aug 2012, 1:08 pm

I didn't learn how to; I wad always expected to apologize and submit to the more dominant person, regardless of who the culprit of the deed was.


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05 Aug 2012, 2:01 pm

when I was so little that I don't remember?

how's that autism related?



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05 Aug 2012, 2:24 pm

I will only appologise when I am actually sorry. I'm not good at appologising if I am not sorry even if it'smy fault...it's a problem apparently.



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05 Aug 2012, 2:49 pm

nrau wrote:
when I was so little that I don't remember?

how's that autism related?


Seriously? You want me to explain why I provided an option for those who can't remember rather than requiring them to stab blindly at the other options in order to view the results?

I wouldn't mind that so many of your posts seem to antagonise people across several threads (and I refer less to this comment and more to some other potentially very hurtful posts of yours) if it actually provoked interesting discussion. But to be antagonistic and unnecessary? If you don't like a thread, go and read a different one.


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