Is this considered social cues?

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I'm not too sure whether i can read social cues or not(well most i can read). Trying to understand what its like for someone with aspergers to not be able to notice social cues. I can tell when someone is grumpy, when they seem bored, when they are happy, when they seem sad. I can tell by the way their facial expressions how i think they might be feeling. Those are social cues to me. I also know when you are supposed to say thank you and stuff like that. I have alittle trouble with jokes and some sarcasm, i dont make conversation and i dont keep conversation. Usually cus theres nothin to say. Alot of times i get frustrated when i dont know what a person means by somethin like if they were kidding or not. The other thing that i notice too and tell me if this goes with social cues or not. I'm kind of slow at doin stuff that your supposed to do, late. Like say if i was sitting in a class and the teacher says somethin like "i want everyone to line up in a row run over and pick up a book..run to the end of the room put the book down, pick up a ball run to the other end of the room put down the ball and get into a line again" (sorry if that was confusing) something like that i would be one of the last people standing up to do whatever i was supposed to do. And then i would be like thinkin ok why is everyone getting up? Is that considered social cues? What kinds of social cues can u read easily and which ones cant you?

What you described towards the end of your post is a mental processing delay, and no it's not a retardation problem. Many of us on the Autism/Asperger's spectrum experience a number of different mental processing problems. It is part of the disorder. Our minds tend to get over whelmed by input, and this causes a back-up or delay in processing. Sometimes that results in our being "slow" to react, as you described. Other times it causes meltdowns or shut downs. Still other times it causes sensory overloads with one or more of our senses. And it also affects our ability to receive, understand, and react to social cues.

I have problems in all these areas. I have always felt that I was on a slower time track than the rest of the world, and could never understand how other people could get so much done in any one day, when it takes me so long to do stuff. I had problems playing games with relatives as a child. It would take me much longer to consider and make moves, so the other kids would start to play around me, leading me to have meltdowns, as I perceived what they were doing as cheating. I have a lot of other processing issues, but it all fits in with my having Asperger's. At least now I know why I am the way I am.

being born with a celeron cpu with slow and insufficient RAM, is a pain. everything takes so long to do and is so hard to do, compared with those infuriatingly normal types for whom everything comes much more easily and quickly, as though they didn't have to try at all.